My husband's cousin and his fiance called yesterday to let us know that they are getting married on Saturday and to invite us to their wedding. It's going to be immediate family and close friends only. My husband and his cousing are very close. I'm also helping the bride to get everything ready on the big day. They had a baby in March so when we got married in April, they came to the wedding, but said that they couldn't afford to get us a gift. We were both just glad that they came. This time, we don't have the extra money to buy them a gift on such short notice especially right at Christmas time. Under these circumstances, is it wrong not to buy the couple a gift? Thanks for your input. The reason they moved the wedding date up is actually because they are expecting another baby.
2007-12-04 02:36:15 · 13 answers · asked by orangeflameninja 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Do not gift them either. You are under the same circumstances as they were back then, and you were ok with it, so they should be to be content with your attendance too.
Good luck
2007-12-04 02:54:20 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Just as they explained their situation to you, you should do the same. If you feel strange, there is nothing wrong with saying that there will be a gift on the way, but it wont get there for a few months, until the holidays are over and you can get your finances back in order. I would guess that this will not be a big problem for either of them for two reasons, #1, they have been through money issues as well, thus its easier for them to be understanding and #2 they have quickly moved the wedding up therefore probably taking quite a few people off guard, so they are probably expecting it already. I would guess that rather than being focused on gifts they are focused on just getting married before the baby comes and want to get this little part over with.
2007-12-04 10:46:58 · answer #2 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Don't think you need to feel bad for not getting an extravagant gift. If giving a gift feels necessary, think outside the box. Offer to babysit, cook them dinner, something that's not going to cost you money right now- a gift doesn't have to be a blender or a toaster- a gift of your time or whatever talent you may have would probably be way more valued.
2007-12-04 11:03:04 · answer #3 · answered by LB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF you cannot afford a gift, at least get them a nice card. Perhaps you and your husband could buy each other one less christmas gift and instead put the money toward a small gift for his cousin.
2007-12-04 11:47:58 · answer #4 · answered by vanessa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would still get them a small gift. Perhaps a picture frame (you can get these cheap at many stores) with your favorite photo of the 4 of you or of the 2 of them?
Or, you could give them "coupons" for your babysitting services, for those nights when they would like to go out alone.
Pair either of these with a nice card and it will be a great sentiment! A gift doesn't have to be expensive to be meaningful to the couple!
2007-12-04 10:46:59 · answer #5 · answered by Sharon 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
let them know that all you are doing to help them get married is going to be your gift to them. They should understand that it was short notice and it is X-Mas time, just like you understood when they could not give for your wedding due to the new baby. Good luck to all of you and merry christmas!
2007-12-04 10:45:06 · answer #6 · answered by Doh Doh 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
what you could do is get them a card and let them know that they will be getting a gift after christmas. things are tight and it was sudden notice but you are extremely happy that you got invited. maybe get a little something for the one on the way and say they will get something for them for the wedding after the holidays.
2007-12-04 11:15:03 · answer #7 · answered by cowgirlclub 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should be required to give a gift, especially since you're helping them out with their wedding day.
2007-12-04 12:25:36 · answer #8 · answered by Katy B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get them a lovely card congratulating them on their marriage and if you were getting them a Christmas present, then get them a little something extra.
OR
you can arrange to fix them a special dinner at a later date to celebrate.
and it's alright to not get them anything at all if things are unusually tight for you now. Just don't forget to give them a nice congratulatory card or letter.
2007-12-04 10:50:55 · answer #9 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you cannot afford a gift, give them a nice card and celebrate their day with them.
2007-12-04 10:40:46 · answer #10 · answered by nova_queen_28 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋