i walked in on her, and i was completely shocked she's definently not the type to do this
i dont know what to do i talked to her and gave her the lecture however i caught her doing it again, what should i do
thanx
2007-12-04 02:31:30 · 18 answers · asked by An EcStAcy pRiNcEsS’s ReBeLLiOn 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
there are alot of hard questions you have to ask yourself. was this one guy twice, two guys seperate times, or two guys at the same time. you should consider recording evidence of this, i'd suggest video surveillanec so when you inform her mother she'll be more likely to believe you.
2007-12-04 02:40:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know what you think the "type that does this" is, but apparently you're wrong. The lecture didn't work. It's not like you can get her a chastity belt, so you'd best get her some form of birth control and perhaps your next talk should be about STDs and safe sex?
You are the step parent - does her parent know? This type of thing probably should come from them rather than you. Maybe you feel like she is going to feel betrayed if you "tell" on her, but frankly, if she thinks she's old enough for sex, but she's not old enough to own up to it, she needs to think about wether she's really old enough to be having sex. The sticky question is, do you talk about it with her dad or her mom.
2007-12-04 02:46:59 · answer #2 · answered by Damocles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, my advice is going to be different depending on how old she is.
Ignoramus--your name says it all! Put her on b/c no matter what age she is?? So, if she's 13 she should go on b/c and be taught that it is completely okay to have sex? I don't think so!
If she is 16 or 17, I would say yes, get her on b/c. At that age, it doesn't really matter what you do, if she wants to have sex she will. Any younger than that, and she should have everything taken away from her, and you should keep an eye one her. At 13-15 there is no reason for a parent not to know what their child is doing at all times. Regardless of how old she is though, you do need to gether father involved.
2007-12-04 02:33:40 · answer #3 · answered by Mikey's Mommy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well if your step sister is too young then you should get her on birth control and give let her have some proper sex education,and if she is mature enough for sex,then you should still get her on birth control,but ask her to be more descrete about it,since she got caught twice having sex,so she might want to do it in a place more private,and get to know the guy so that your step sister is not having sex with some bastard or a jerk,and if you can match her with a friend of yours that you know is a good person and will treat her well,that is if she is mature i mean.good luck to you and her.
2007-12-04 10:06:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old is she? was it with the same guy? or different guy? and you say you had the talk....did it involve being safe or not doing it?
if she is younger than 17, but you didn't say...but is she is...why is she allowed in her room alone with a boy? or at least why isn't she made to leave the door opened? when I was 16 in my parents house..I was not allowed to be alone in my room with my boyfriend, only if my dad came home from work and wanted to watch something different from us on the tv, but even then...my door had to stay opened, and usually my brother came in to watch whatever we were watching, or we would end up playing a board game or something, and even though he was 20, his mother had the same rules for her house, because she respected my parents.
but again it all depends on age, and what exactly was talked about? safety or not doing it at all?
2007-12-04 02:38:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you didn't mention her age.
regardless, time for birth control, box of "raincoats" to keep in her room, and a visit to the doctor to learn about STD's and see if she has any. sex is normal especially amongst teens. talk to her like an adult. make sure she values herself. there's no such thing as a certain type that does or doesn't have sex. EVERYONE eventually does.
2007-12-04 03:01:23 · answer #6 · answered by (!)listen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there's really not much you can do, realistically. What you need to ask yourself rather than how to stop her is: How old is she? How old is the guy? Is he enough older that you're concerned? Do you think she's being pressured to do something she doesn't want to do? Are they using protection?
Maybe you should get her father and/or her bio mom involved as well.
2007-12-04 02:35:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First you need to take her and have her tested for pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases and AIDS. Then you need to sit down with her mother and father and you all need to have a long heart to heart about sex and adult relationships. Then you need to make sure she knows about birth control and how to protect herself if she chooses to have sex again. Stress to her that the only way to prevent pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases 100% is to not have sex at all.
2007-12-04 03:39:41 · answer #8 · answered by llllll_amanda_lllllll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all get her on the pill.Second of all it sounds to me like she is looking for something she not going to find in a boy.Her dad needs to work on their relationship.My niece is 15 and her dad is not their for her.So she tries to find the love and bond etc. with a boy that she don't have with her dad.
2007-12-04 02:42:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, this is not your problem. Talk to her biological parent about it and then step away. Secondly, how old is she and where is she having sex that you keep walking in on her? If she's of age, buy a lock for her door and encourage her to use it.
2007-12-04 02:39:32 · answer #10 · answered by Lex 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋