Would you want your mom and family to ride with you in the limo to your honeymoon?

Question

My mom is paying for our wedding and honeymoon and she wants to ride in the limo (that she's paying for), along with some other people of my family, with me and my new husband while we go to the airport (45 minutes away) to go to our honeymoon. What would your thoughts be if your mom told you that's what she wanted to do? Cause my thinking is we just got married (which is a symbolization of growing up, leaving the nest, being without your parents) we would want to be alone. But she is paying for it and I don't want to be rude but I don't think going to our honeymoon is a "family event". But she thinks it would be fun. I know "do what you want to do" and all that but what would YOU do if your mom wanted to ride along?

Answer 1

I AM a mom, and I PAID for the limo. I would have never asked for a ride to the airport.

Is there any way she can ride in the limo before the wedding? Or ride between the wedding and reception locations?

Good luck -- I'm with you on this one. Wish I could speak to your mother though. :-)


P.S. I just thought of something else that might work. Is there any way to change your flight reservations to the following day? Stay in a local hotel for your wedding night. Would she want to ride with you to the hotel?

Or, I like the suggestions to offer to take your own transportation and let her have the limo. That would be funny. I wonder if she would finally realize what this looks like.

But whatever, you have to realize that if she pulls this off and gets in the limo with you, she will be the one people talk about, not you and your fiance. People will think she's nuts. At least my friends and I would if we were at your wedding.

This one just completely throws me. :-) Sorry I keep editing my answer.

Answer 2

Hello Kitty, The problem as I see it is this..... Your mom, has never ridden in a Limo, and if that is all that is standing in the way of her happiness, then recommend that she and all of the family that wants to get a ride to the Local 7-11, or Stop N Go before your trip to the Airport. The contract for the trip to the Airport is just that, once you get to the airport the trip Ends, and Mom, and who ever is with her will be stranded across town, and the Driver will be off to his next Fare. It is a little disconcerting that Mom wants to intrude on the beginning of your new life together with your Husband, and the romance of the ride to the Airport for the Honeymoon should be a private Moment between yourself and your husband. Tell Mom that if she insists on the ride in the Limo, then she will have to consider the trip home from the airport, as a separate trip which she will have to get another contract for, and pay a seperate fare for. This may discourage her, and ring a few bells, unless the Limo company charges for the Limo by the hour, then if this is the case ask Mom to have the Limo return to her home, after you two have been driven to the airport, and let mom ride till the time limit runs out, or she has gotten her hearts fill, which ever comes 1st. Another recommendation might be that Mom could request a second Limo, fro the trip to the airport, which she and any other member of the family could ride in , in Caravan, all that much more fun, for Mom because then she could speculate about the activity in the 1st car. I hope this helps....... Best of Day's! Robert

Answer 3

First, you have do decide how much the idea of them going with you really bothers you and your fiance. If you both talk about it and it's really not that big of a deal (it's not like they're going on your honeymoon.) then let them go, it'll save hurt feelings. But, if you and your fiance are really bothered by the idea, let your family know that you are going to be VERY newly married and you leaving together is a symbol of you two starting your life together, and that it's going to be a special, romantic limo ride. If they are reasonable people, they will understand, I personally have NEVER heard of the family riding in the limo with the bride and groom. Can you afford to pay for another limo yourself which can transport your family to the airport and follow you? Or, can you pay for your own limo instead of your mother so you feel you have more control over who rides in it? I would tell my mom NO WAY is she riding with me or going with me to the airport, I'd tell her she'd see me after the honeymoon, then I'd ask her if she and dad had the family with them hanging out right after they got married, bet she says no.

Answer 4

Did his parents ask to come along too? Tell your Mom that if she comes you feel obligated to invite his parents too, then she can decide whether it will be worth it or not. I for one had my mother ride with me to the ceremony and my other family members took her from there. The hardest part is not wanting to hurt her feelings, but once you get to the airport they pretty much throw you out with your bags and you go through security and that's it. They don't have send offs at the airport like they used to - they can't go to the gate without a ticket.

Something to consider...You will have such a small amount of alone time with your fiance/husband on your wedding day and you will be craving some down time before having to get on a plane. You will need this time by yourselves without having to "entertain" more family. I know everyone says that you will have so much time on the honeymoon and later after the wedding, trust me when I say you will need that down time to catch your breath and get ready for your next adventure.
Enjoy and good luck!

Answer 5

This is only a ride to the airport, not a ride to your honeymoon, which really WOULD be creepy. She probably just wants to say goodbye to her baby girl.

If you only want you and your new husband to ride in the limo to the airport then go for it. If you're old enough to get married, then you need to be woman enough to stand up to your mother and tell her no (the first of many "no's"), you only want to be with your husband on the ride to the airport.

If she throws a fit and starts in with the "I'm paying!" BS or pouting and withholding affection, then you know you have an interfering Momzilla you need to reign in fast or she's going to make your married life hell. And yes the in-laws can interfere to the point that they ruin your marriage--but only if you let them.

My mother wouldn't insist on riding in the limo, but if she did, I'd say no, say your goodbyes at the reception.

Congratulations and Happy Wedding! And good luck to you!

Answer 6

She's paying for the limo....if she wants to pack the whole town inside she can. You just have to suck it up. You have three choices:

1) A limo, paid for by your mother, with family riding along
2) A limo you pay for yourself, which means you make the rules so no family
3) no limo

Personally I think limos are a waste of money. Its not prom, there aren't that many pics, and serously.....$400 for like 45 of actual riding time? I'd rather just take a car and use that money elsewhere. Part of being grown up is also realizing that you can't always have your way and the person with the checkbook can attach as many strings as they want. If your mom said "I will buy you a dress but only a purple one" you'd have to make the same choices.

Answer 7

OK your first mistake was to let Mom pay for your wedding and honeymoon.

But since you just had to have a bash - and some exotic place to honeymoon - instead of something more modest - that YOU paid for - it's a bit late now.

Since she's paying for it - I suppose you should allow Mom to accompany you to the airport but do make it quite clear that she is NOT to accompany you on the honeymoon.

Let this be a lesson to all bridal couples - he who pays the piper gets to call the tunes.

So, even though you may WANT a big bash of a wedding - unless you can pay for it yourselves - you don't get any control over other people's wishes - especially if they're writing the checks.

Answer 8

I'm going to be honest with you. Once you leave your reception and have your night of fun at your honeymoon, you kind of feel like your missing out on the party back home. Sounds craaaaazy, I know! But that's kind of how it feels because everyone is in your town visiting and you are not there to enjoy the fun they're having. Even though you're having a party of your own, both of you might feel the loss. My point being, your mom's paying for it, you might as well let her ride with you those extra 45 minutes. You have the rest of your marriage to be alone with your guy. The extra 45 minutes are not going to matter to you. Trust me, I help planning with weddings, and all the brides I've worked with felt this way.

Answer 9

Your mom wants to ride to the airport, and see you off -- not accompany you on your honeymoon...

I think this would be a GREAT opportunity to share your memories about the ceremony and the reception. The day after my wedding, my parents met us for lunch and we shared the touching moments of the ceremony again. My dad, who never gets emotional, told me how proud he was to place my hand in my new husbands. My mom described the faces of the bridesmaids as we said our vows. It was a precious time together -- and we'd have forgotten those moments had we waited until after our honeymoon to 'glow' together.

Your mother may also wish to extend your 'celebrity' by seeing you off at the airport -- especially if people are still wearing wedding attire, flowers, balloons, etc. She wants to be part of that excitement, where everyone in sight will be smiling at your joy.

This has nothing to do with whether she paid for the limo or not -- and shouldn't be part of your decision. Let her share in your joy for a few more moments, have the chance to quietly say how much she loves you, and glow with pride.

Answer 10

I think as long as she's only going in the limo, and not getting on the plane with you, that it would be alright. It might be fun on a long ride, and you have the rest of your life to spend with your husband. I would object if she were going on the actual honeymoon, but I don't see any big deal accompanying you to the airport. When my sister got married, I (the maid of honor) and the best man dropped the happy couple off to start their honeymoon. It was nice to spend a little time with them after the party, but none of us felt it was intrusive.