I dont understand i walk through the door and she dont talk to me no one does not even my dad and i dont know why and it gets me really mad and im not going to talk to them about it casue im moving friday to my moms
what should i do?
2007-12-04 01:42:34 · 5 answers · asked by Kaylee M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It sounds like you are in denial of your real feelings.
Get in touch with your feelings. Ask yourself: Do I want to confront my Dad with my feelings, or do I not care enough to bother? Maybe if I really don't care, I should just go ahead and go to my Mom's and not cause trouble for my Dad and Step-mom.
But remember, if you push feelings down deep and don't address them, at some point they may come out on their own, and it won't be pretty. They may not give you any warning, but just erupt like a volcano!
Obviously, if your Dad and you have any sort of relationship that you would like to maintain during your life, now is the time to speak to him without too much emotion or anger. Simply state: How it makes you feel when you walk in and the two of them don't say Hi, howz your day been? or whatever.
Also, remember not to accuse them of anything. Just tell them how it makes you feel and wait for them to explain themselves. Usually, it just takes one person making a small effort at communication to start the ball rolling. Often you find out that the other people wanted to talk but didn't have the nerve to start the conversation. You be the one! Go ahead, and try not to lose your temper or accuse! If they begin by accusing you, hang in there and continue to meet each accusation with calm and logical thinking. You can do it! The rewards may be that the air is cleared enough for you to stay in their house, if that's what you want...
Good luck! I'll be thinking of you!
2007-12-04 02:05:33 · answer #1 · answered by Poppy7 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i'm sorry to take heed to this. Its so perplexing i understand. mothers and fathers are not perfect however. you will understand that when you become previous. i think of you are going to be able to desire to talk on your dad like an grownup. without screaming or arguing :) only sit down down and say " dad i think of you're incredible and that i'm extremely grateful to have a relatives. i'm prepared on (step mothers call) yet i've got been feeling slightly ignored. there is not any could desire to make it a huge deal because of the fact it hasn't grown into that. I only wanted to make conscious of it so which you would be able to help me restore it. i think of i could rather want to spend time this week with you in basic terms us 3 (incorporate the step mom) " i'm effective he will like it. Then only save being outstanding to her. in case you experience as though she's out to get you nevertheless then see a counselor at school possibly and tell her your subject then you certainly can get expert help and do councilling alongside with your dad and step mom. do not subject! you would be ok
2016-12-17 06:42:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write a little note, tell then how much it hurt you when they ignore your presence, how you would've appreciate even small talk. That you wish you could bring nice memories of the time you were living with then. And move on, there's a new life waiting for you with your mom.
2007-12-04 01:51:33 · answer #3 · answered by Lulu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should clear the air with them first before you move to your real mom . ask your dad and your step mom what is their problem toward you? That way you will not have any awkward moment in future especially with your dad. good luck
2007-12-04 02:35:49 · answer #4 · answered by PANGTA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to your mom, it will be better.
you never know, it can get worse with your step mom.
2007-12-04 02:31:43 · answer #5 · answered by baywatch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋