This is sad but funny. She does not like me or my sister and only buys for the children she likes. She is really mean but I do not know how to react. I feel weird taking a present for my daughter but want to handle things politely without getting too involved with her. What would you do?
2007-12-04 01:33:10 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well obviously you are probably hurt by her actions and I am sorry that she has chosen to treat you that way. My advice is to not accept the gift at all. This is not for a retaliation but for your daughter's sake. Say your child stays in your mother's good graces for the next five years and then one day she gets a call that Grandma no longer likes her and she will not be receiving a gift that year. Do not set her up to be hurt the same way you have. Just explain to your mom that while you love her and appreciate the thought of the gift you would rather not let your daughter be the object of favoritism or disfavor in your family. That is not rude, you are her mom and you must set the example for your child. There is nothing wrong with teaching her to treat everyone fairly. I know that it is easy to give advice and harder to live with being in the situation. Good luck and I hope it works out for you.
2007-12-04 01:43:24 · answer #1 · answered by Sugarkiss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At this point, just think of everything from your daughter's perspective. What is good for her? Does your daughter enjoy her relationship with her Grandma? If so, then let the giving of the gift take place and let your daughter enjoy it. But beware, if your Mom can "disown" her own children this way, one day your daughter may do something to displease your Mom and she may act the same way towards your daughter. As you go through the years and your daughter is old enough to understand things, gradually introduce her to the idea that some people are fickle in their affection. She may not be able to count on everyone to love her unconditonally, but you always will. (And hopefully her Dad, as well).
Hope this helps with your situation, which by the way, you seem to be handling with the utmost maturity!
2007-12-04 01:44:57 · answer #2 · answered by Poppy7 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she can give gifts to whom ever she chooses. take the gift , say thank you on behalf of your child , and let it go. She is probably waiting for some reaction from you and when she gets it, it Will make her smile in a distorted way.
So don't give her the satisfaction of seeing you upset. Be polite and nice about it and leave it at that. that will make her ponder her action and maybe next year, If you continue to be polite all year, you'll get a gift too. people are funny you know. try it and see. Merry Christmas
2007-12-04 01:45:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why isn't he in courtroom combating for his daughter? He would not ought to only take a seat and permit the mum dictate while she will and could not enable him to make certain her. while he information papers for joint custody or visitation or regardless of she has again for the era of with an handle. It appears like he's asserting he needs her yet only not keen to shell out the time, money, and hassle to combat for her. i can make certain the mothers factor of being annoyed with him. It hits a nerve while your new child's father would not make an effort to touch her on her birthday. would not he understand the place her dad and mom stay? Her siblings? A joint buddy? the place she used to artwork? there is a thank you to get into touch with them AND all he had to do replaced into MAIL a card and recent to the different occasion and ask them to get it to his daughter on her birthday. Does he pay new child help? i'm hoping so. If not, why not? And if he does then why would not he have her handle? call and ask the courts for it. appears like a one sided tale. i think of that the two dad and mom are at fault with this and the new child is the sufferer. of direction he ought to get her a birthday recent and a reasonably advantageous one at that. i might get her a type of: - a advantageous doll infant and a doll infant stroller. - a princess gown up outfit with the upload-ons - a dozing bag and pa up tent - a private CD participant and a few young ones CDs desire this record facilitates. SD
2016-12-10 12:13:00 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not take the gift if she is only doing it to be mean. I would politely say " I dont want to teach my daughter, that is how you treat people" your daughter sees the things that grown ups do. Kids mimic.
Alternative- She is doing it to hurt you, so hurt her. Tell her over and over how appreciative you are. It may be hard to tell her, but boy it will piss her off if it dn bother you!!!!! Being nice to a bitter person, is like putting salt in their wound. (And hopefully a little neosporin) because I sure that you want your Mom to be a better person.
Hope that this helps!!!
2007-12-04 01:42:35 · answer #5 · answered by **Lynn** 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once you are an adult Christmas presents from your parents become less important, especially if you have children yourself. Accept the gift for your daughter and move on.
2007-12-04 01:39:35 · answer #6 · answered by Shelly J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say "Thank you--that was nice of you" and move on. Personally--I never expected my mother to buy me presents--once I reached aduldhood. In fact--I do not --have never received presents from parents since about age 10. No big deal. I am an old woman now and they are gone.
2007-12-04 01:43:12 · answer #7 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Graciously accept the gift for your daughter and say thank you. At least she is getting something for her grandchild who doesn't know that her grandma doesn't like you or your sister. Your mom sounds immature at best...it is just so wrong to only buy for the grandkids/children she likes. Imagine how it must make the other grandkids feel.
2007-12-04 01:38:21 · answer #8 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Our family never buys the adults presents. We only buy for the kids. It would be too expensive to purchase presents for everyone
2007-12-04 02:31:02 · answer #9 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell her I'm going to do the same thing....I'm going to buy my daughter a present and I will not be buying anything for her either.
2007-12-04 02:09:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋