Here soon, about 20 days, I'm going to visit a friend for a few days. She's used to living alone so she has housing services set up during the day while she works, which means while I visit her I wont be able to stay at her home. She insisted that I go with her to work, she works at a daycare/pre-school. Is it illegal for her to bring guests (especially me, a man, 19yrs old) into the daycare environment if I'm not officially aligned with their business?
Also, if it's not illegal, would you as a parent feel uncomfortable knowing your daycare manager was bringing an unknown guest and that the guest will be around your children?
I hope to get replies from rural and city folks. I am in a rural environment so I will hope to gage my decision on rural parent's replies. Thank you.
2007-12-04 01:26:57 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Ok thank you for your replies, though I didn't hope for such nerving replies, I feel targetted by them. The woman is the one insisting I visit, I've been telling her I was unsure about the idea.
2007-12-04 01:34:09 · update #1
You have to take into consideration a lot of things here. the character of yourself, what you do when people aren't looking, how your neighborhood will take this and perhaps your friends job. I don't think it's legal, but it might be aginst policy.
2007-12-04 01:32:32 · answer #1 · answered by dave49310 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the best thing I can tell you is to put you're self in the parents shoes of the kids in the daycare how would you feel?If you was a father and went to pick up you child or baby from daycare and their was a 19yr. old man hanging out you have never seen before?I would take my children out of that daycare that day if it was me.Sorry nothing personal but I would not take any chances. I were you because you're also putting your self at risk also.People will do anything for money.It would be your word against theirs.You should really think about it.
2007-12-04 01:44:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the daycare. Some are Privately owned, and I'm not sure if they have different "guidelines" to follow. I think they can be more "flexible" with their rules, etc.... As far as how'd I feel having "unknown guests" in and out of there..... I personally would not like that. Especially a male. too many "horror stories" in the world these days. If you don't feel comfortable going, you should just tell your friend that you aren't comfortable being there around the children, etc... Good Luck !!!
2007-12-04 03:28:18 · answer #3 · answered by casper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a farm girl, so I guess that's about as rural as you can get. I would make sure that your friend has cleared your guest visit with her employer first. They have to check their liability policies and company policies to see whether you can stay with her while she is at work.
As for my personal take on the issue, you are an unknown factor to the daycare center. You have not had a background check done on you. I would be uncomfortable with a 19 year old male of unknown background being around babies and young children. Sorry! It's nothing personal. Simply a sign of the times.
2007-12-04 01:31:34 · answer #4 · answered by kja63 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
no it is not illegal, so long as her job doesnt specifically forbid it. If the woman, the daycare and environment was something I trusted or felt comfortable with, it would not bother me. I would assume that any guests would be well enough watched, and licensed people would be around that nothing could go wrong.
I worked as a volunteer for a while in a daycare program -- we were volunteers being taken in for intern positions or comunity service hours to graduate (which was required to graduate highschool where i lived) and they were any age from 13-20 years olde coming in there....we were not paid, so obviously not on the list of guides/teachers, were not licensed, more than half of us were not trained in any sort of form of fashion, and which specific people were assigned to each place changed on a daily basis, so you never knew WHO would be in each class room each day -- so we were pretty much underaged, untrained, unlicensed guests just as you are --- but so long as the parents got the chance to be introduced and meet us, explained that we'd be joining the class for the day to observe, and that other licensed teachers would be availble with us at all times, no parent ever once complained, so i don't think there should be any problems so long as her job is aware of it, and says its ok. :)
good luck to ya both
--Mordi
PS -- why is it such a big deal for you to be at the house when housing serive arrives? I've been around during it, and i've stayed at hotels during house keeping -- i just stayed outt there way and no prob, so why is she so touchy on it?
2007-12-04 01:37:12 · answer #5 · answered by Mordi 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think that obviously YOU are uncomfortable with it, and probably a lot of the parents would be too. honestly, most 19 year old men would not find spending a day at a daycare very fun anyways, so while your friend works why don't you check out the town, catch up on your reading, see a movie, or do something that keeps you busy and allows her to focus on her job.
2007-12-04 04:40:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean by housing services set up? I'm completely lost on why you can be a visiting friend but not be left alone in her home. Are you going to be staying at a local hotel or motel? That is an interesting set-up...
About the day care situation, in my state all persons related to child care must be fingerprinted and background checked. That would preclude your guest visit at the day care facility...if I had a child in a day care center that I found out had 'guests' I would remove my child and report the center.
2007-12-04 01:35:07 · answer #7 · answered by ~Just 1 good egg~ 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your friend knows you better than us. If she works around kids all day then I would trust her judgement that she would not want them to come to any harm. Most daycares have cameras everywhere so what could you really get away with , nothing. There is alot of parents that come in unanounced at Daycares and just hang out. You don't know they might have a sex offense list a mile long. What I am trying to say is that it wouldn't bother me.
2007-12-04 02:14:38 · answer #8 · answered by Bilinda G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you dont HAVE to go with her to work. Why not entertain yourself while she is at work. See a movie, go for a drive, sightsee, take a tour, hang out at a coffeeshop, get some lunch visit with other friends in the area...there are a ton of things you can do while she is at work.
And yes, she should not be bringing you to her work. A) its a place of business and her job, you dont bring buddies to that. B) Its a childcare center, that is just not right bringing unauthorized strangers.
2007-12-04 01:41:21 · answer #9 · answered by MonkeyMama 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
NO it is not illegal or unethical for her to have you visit the daycare. Do you think the maint people who come to fix electrical, plumbing, bookkeepers, etc. shouldn't be allowed in? How about spouses and family coming to pick up the teachers and have to wait for the teacher to finish their shift?
It is however illegal for you to be involved with the children. You can hang out in the break room or her office, but cannot be in any of the classes or with the children unattended. Pretty boring day in any case, I think I would rather have my teeth pulled without novacaine then suffer through a day like that!
2007-12-04 01:41:55 · answer #10 · answered by smf_hi 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why not do some shopping or take in a movie instead of going to work with her. Tell her your on vacation and would prefer taking in some activities that you normally don't get to do. I'm sure there's a lot of things to do or sightseeing to take in while on your visit. It sounds like your uncomfortable with the idea of going to daycare, so don't go. Go with your gut!
2007-12-04 01:38:11 · answer #11 · answered by Liz H 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋