i'm a senior in high school and i'm datin a 23 year old guy . hes a senior in college . he barely talks to me and always says that hes not a phone person but tells me that he loves me ! everytime he talks to me its to ask me for money or sex . and he wont even let me even touch his phone, not that i ask for it ! and i even be buyin him jordans all the time !! we've been together for 6 months and he hasnt bought me anythin !! i spent more than two thousand dollars on him over the summer !!! what should i do ?? am i gettin played ??
2007-12-04 01:04:26 · 54 answers · asked by DaMoDeL 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes you are gettin played. Not very nice behaviour for a grown man but what can you do? It happens to all of us once or twice. Don't take it personally, just move on.
Good luck dear.
2007-12-04 01:07:45 · answer #1 · answered by Nic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hate to say it but it sounds like the guy is a loser and a user.
The fact he is so paranoid of you touching his cell phone means he probably has other girls on it that he is doing the same thing to and he doesn’t want you to see the list.
Any self respecting guy is going to at least pay is own way and not be asking for money especially from a high school student.
Granted a lot of guys are tight on funds when in college. But even then when going out they usually pay our own way, though we might tell the girl up front that we need to split the bill or go to some location that is not to expensive. Or as one person put it to his date, “the sky is the limit, up to $14 and 38 cents.”
And I wont even get into the ramifications if you are under 18.
It is rare that I tell anyone not to look for something good in the other person, but in this case as cold as it sounds. There are much better guys out there don’t waste your time with this loser.
As for your initial question are you being stupid or too nice? Neither, you are just young and got mislead by someone older that knows what to say and what to do to get what he wants.
However I do hope that you don’t become like this guy and start treating all guys the same way. So many females get the idea that all males just liars and users after being with one like that and thus treat good guys like dirt.
Which in turn makes what was a good guy figure all females are just users so might as well get to them before they get to him.
And the cycle continues on and on.
For what it is worth I am sorry you ran into someone like that.
Take care
And may our creator watch over and protect you and your family.
2007-12-04 01:37:20 · answer #2 · answered by jerrys1960 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up, girl! He's using you and your money too. What a gold-digger! I thought this only happen to guys. This guy is not worth for you to spend anymore money or time on. Move on. Get someone better. If a person really love you, he will want to spend a lot of time with you and if he can't see you, he will call you on the phone to atleast ask you how your day has been. This guy don't even let you touch his phone. Maybe he is hiding something. He could be two-timing you. Wake up and get other guys. You deserve someone better.
2007-12-04 01:18:37 · answer #3 · answered by laine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I'd say you are being played. Let him go.
Best way is to find a boyfriend a little closer to you in age. Don't buy him anything expensive, and preferably avoid a sexual relationship until you're sure you want something permanent.
And in the future never give a man you are dating money unless it's a loan he will pay back, and don't give him a second loan until he has repaid the first.
We have a name for a guy who asks his girl for money. The name is "loser." Lose him.
2007-12-05 20:24:05 · answer #4 · answered by Warren D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand lending him money once - but if he asked AGAIN, I would have to tell him to get a job or a raise or something. As far as the sex goes.....yeh, WHY are you giving him that too? Cos he knows how to say I love you even though it means nothing to him?
I think after you spent $100.00 on him without anything coming back that should have told you something - how did you manage to blow 2 GRAND without it ringing any "HELLO?" bells?
Stupid? YEH, sorry, but it is kinda obvious dude is using you. Too NICE? NO - throwing your money down the drain and sleeping with a user - abuser is not being too nice - it is being too NAIVE.
2007-12-04 01:45:04 · answer #5 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although I can not say because I am not there, I would hazard a guess that you are. #1 stop spending all of this money on him. It isn't bad to occasionally spend money on someone, but 2 thousand dollars is way too much. He shouldn't take advantage of your generousity, he is in college and should be paying for a lot of his stuff himself. Maybe if you spend less money on him you can gauge whether or not he is just with you for the money. #2 the fact that he doesn't talk to you a lot says something in my opinion. Is he a shy or quiet person in person? Please take care of yourself. I hope this answer was helpful.
2007-12-04 01:15:31 · answer #6 · answered by nik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That goes to prove you that even college and university men can be so dumb and inmature....he is takiing advantage of all you are giving to him and the relationship is supposed to be mutual you are supposed to do things and details for one another..not just from your part...he is not nurshuring the love....and how on earth are you letting him do this to you?..You have to have and work up your self worth..., you need a person who care and loves you back and who demonstrates that both with words and actions. He is definitely getting something out of your relationship and its not nice . You deserve better than that, he probably has someone else on the side..I think he is cheating on you and that he does not want to let you go cause of all he is getting....move on ...u deserve better....wave this guy good bye .-
2007-12-04 01:20:54 · answer #7 · answered by LatinSpice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not making you a priority...LEAVE HIM GIRL!!!
Hes just using you. Its not going to get any better. You're too young to be worrying about a man. Take it from someone who knows! Im 28 & have spent most of my life pleasing everyone else!!! ITS NOT WORTH IT!! You'll be the miserable one. Good Luck Honey!
2007-12-04 01:13:55 · answer #8 · answered by meallmeallthetime 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea it sounds like he only wants sex and money because that is what he asks for and thats probably why he says he loves you. You should drop him like a bad habit and move on...
2007-12-04 01:08:26 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sister you are so getting played.he using you for your money because he cant afford anything extravagant being a senior in college.so just let him go and find someone to be with who doesnt care if you have alot of money or not.say goodbye to this gold digger to keep your sanity:)good luck
2007-12-04 01:08:25 · answer #10 · answered by feeling it 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋