I'm single & have lived alone for 18 yrs. I'm unemployed & doing SOME housecleaning making VERY little money to get by. I have NO family to loan me money & NO assets to sell for cash & a '94 Civic that's NOW needing various repairs. Rents due & I DON'T have it & have NO place to go. I asked a girlfriend I've known for 30 yrs to move in & SPLIT the rent, etc., for a couple of months to avoid eviction. My girlfriend agreed since she too has money issues BUT, she HAS family whom have given her thousands, a 2004 PT Cruiser, 2005 fully loaded Ford Focus, a Harley Davidson, lots of nice jewelry, an earth contact home she's waiting to move into as soon as her ex-husband moves in 2 months, IRA's & retirement savings & a marine gentlemen whom she practically lives with PLUS she makes approx. $700 or more doing internet real estate AND she has a 17 yr son.
My girlfriend & I agreed ONLY she would move in while her son lives with a classmate until he graduates H.S. next May.
Without 1st discussing with me, she's moving her son in too BUT tells me she is paying $250 of the $500 rent & HASN'T found the time to arrange the cost of her paying half (1/2) of ALL the utilities PLUS cable/internet. ALL my furniture including my washer/dryer will be used EXCEPT for her son's bed.
I have MY ex boyfriends laptop & plan to sell his laptop to help pay a portion of my rent due. I have counted on selling it since I have NO other assets. etc., to get some cash I DESPERATELY need. My girlfriend WANTS the laptop for her son & says she will give me $75 BUT I can get $150. I've told her this, it pissed her off so she contacted MY ex boyfriend (BEHIND MY BACK), Now MY ex boyfriend says he'll just let her son "use" the laptop.
I'm EXTREMELY pissed since she has been FULLY aware of my plans to sell the laptop for DESPERATELY needed cash & unlike her, I DON'T have big assets NOR family NOR a marine boyfriend---I HAVE NOTHING.
*** I have the laptop in MY possession and MY ex boyfriend does NOT & has NOT cared I have his lap top. I've budgeted $150 & decided NOT to sell her the laptop since she wants to pay me ONLY $75 for it even BEFORE she went behind my back to MY ex boyfriend & I DON'T care if this pisses her off. Am I in the wrong? How would you feel?
2007-12-04 00:21:58 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also, is it WRONG for me to feel that the rent PLUS utilities/cable/internet should be SPLIT three ways since there will be three of us with her paying his 1/3 of the rent, etc.? Her son is 17 & has his own vehicle & a part time job. NOTE: My girlfriend & her son surf the internet heavily & I asked her to help pay 1/2 the bill two days ago since the internet/cable company turned off the services BUT she DIDN'T pay 1/2 to turn back on the services, ignoring my calls during that time. *The internet/cable company bills a month ahead of services.
2007-12-04 00:54:54 · update #1
it apperas she is trying to take advantage of a friendship
and your bad financial situation.
you are in no way obligated to sell her your lap top nor
should she expect her son to be able to use it.
you are paying rent and utilities, you have your rights
and feelings.
i would not care less what how she may feel about the
computer. if she were really a friend, and knows of your
situation she should be more than willing to pay the
market value for the lap top, 75.00 more.
with all of the help she gets... she can well afford it.
she should be ashamed of herself the way she has
conducted herself with you. good luck.
2007-12-04 00:35:30 · answer #1 · answered by Jerry S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If I were you and please don't take this the wrong way, I would seriously look into getting another source of income, so this type of thing can't happen. Try and up yourself a little bit check out monster.com and make an on-line resume and send some out!!!
On your question, legally, if someone moves out and they knowingly leave items at your house, for a long period of time, it is technically yours. It is the same if you moved out of your apartment, and left your couch. If you came back in a year and said 'Hey I want my couch!', I can guarantee it is gone.
2007-12-04 00:31:07 · answer #2 · answered by evaj13 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness. What a mess. Has she moved in yet? To be honest, I would cancel that arrangement ASAP! If she is pulling this now, what will it be like when she moves in.
I am sorry you are struggling, but from what you have written, I fear your "friend" will worsen matters.
Good luck with everything.
2007-12-04 00:28:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your money troubles are not really her problem. You offered to let her move in and pay half of the bills, which she is doing. Who cares if her family is giving her money? She's upholding her end of the bargain so you should be happy to have that help at all.
Also, selling an ex's laptop instead of giving it back and then being angry when you can't sell it? Tacky.
2007-12-04 00:26:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
Are you sure you want to be roommates with her? I'd be very careful if I were you. If she would go behind your back and do you like that , I would'nt trust her. I think you're right to be angry at her, i would be too.
2007-12-04 00:30:10 · answer #5 · answered by kharilli 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
it was crappy, they went behind your back.. .. F them.. Sell it to some one else. You need the money, you don’t need to explain anything to no one..
When you can, Remove our self from them.
With friends like that, who need enemies..
2007-12-04 00:29:04 · answer #6 · answered by LandRover 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are right tell him politely you need money so you do what you need to overcome your problem... Its really painful situation for you... Sorry about that...
2007-12-04 00:28:27 · answer #7 · answered by Indian_Lotus 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Bummer........that sucks......I'd feel the same way you're feeling right now!
She owns you now!
2007-12-04 00:27:41 · answer #8 · answered by J☼E 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋