But how do I know if its too much fighting and we just arent going to get along. I love this girl with all my heart but I just get so frustrated with her sometimes. She doesnt listen to me and because of that I feel like we have the SAME arguments OVER AND OVER and I hate it. . I do not want to end something that is normal if the next relationship is gonna be the same way then ending this one would be pointless. please help. My main question is how can I tell if its TOO much fighting or if I am just in a normal relationship and if this is how its supposed to be
2007-12-03 19:11:48 · 6 answers · asked by Chris 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
almost everything out of her mouth sounds like it is in a rude tone to me. For example when she calls me and if i have to call her back for something i forgot she will say "what do you need?!". When I confront her about her tone she says "you think everything is rude. now matter how i say it you think its rude." She doesnt get it. I just feel like a bother to her sometimes and I dont really think i should feel that way. To responded to one of the other answers I have tried asking her to repeat to me what I just said and she gets all pissy with me.
2007-12-04 04:56:35 · update #1
If you're having the same arguments, you two probably aren't resolving the issues. When you're not fighting, tell her how much you love her and ask her to please address these issues with you, kindly and lovingly. Talk nicely, have her repeat to you what she heard, listen to her responses.
You can, of course, also do this with a professional, but it's better if you can handle it together--it will make you stronger!
Disagreements are normal, in every relationship, but the ability to talk things out and come to a happy medium is crucial to a healthy, lasting relationship! Best!!!
2007-12-03 19:20:36 · answer #1 · answered by wishfulthinking 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Fighting in a relationship is not NORMAL. Loving in a relationship is what is normal. If you fight in your relationship, then something is definitely wrong, which is not necessarily from her end. I suggest you start by examing yourself, your attitude toward her. What are the things you fight over or about? Can't there be a win win arrangement to forstal fighting? Usually when there is fighting in a relationship chances are that the guy is the problem. This is because if a girl feels bad in a relationship, she normally backs out of it. But if she remains in a relationship characterised by fighting, that usually indicates she does not wish to end the relationship. She just lingers on, hoping something could happen to remedy the situation. So in your case, I guess that the girl likes the relationship, but perhaps you don't allow her the kind of atmosphere she desires. You should therefore soften your stance on issues. Make necessary concessions to allow her to exercise a measure of freedom while being attached to you as a partner not as one owned by you.
2007-12-04 15:06:55 · answer #2 · answered by Nolly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Too much fighting" is relative. My parents argued constantly throughout their 27 year marriage. Even when my mother was dying, she still argued with my dad. It's what they did, and they were happy that way.
In other words, there is no "normal" amount of fighting. There's what you're okay with and what you aren't. And if you're not okay with the amount of arguing in your relationship, then try discussing this with her first, let her know that you feel like she's not listening to you. If that doesn't help, then there might be some major communication issues, which can lead to an unhappy relationship whether you're fighting or not.
(And it goes without saying that if there's abuse involved, physical or emotional, then it's not good at all.)
2007-12-03 19:22:35 · answer #3 · answered by lunameow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so thrilled to hear that someone elses husband acts just like a kid when they get the tinest cough or anything. They require more attention than a two year old. My hubby had a cold (not bad at all now) and layed up in the bed complaining for two whole days. He even went so far as to ask me to use our office walkie talkies while I worked in my home office which is down the hall and to the left. I too, even when I am sick, get up, take care of my usual duties and go on with life. I may be able to get to bed earlier, but life goes on as usual for us woman.
2016-04-07 07:23:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having the same argument over and over is too much. What do you mean she does not listen to you? She does hear what you say or she does not obey what you say? People are going to have arguments and they are going to get on each others nerves from time to time. This is normal.
2007-12-03 19:18:33 · answer #5 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the way you are saying it says its too much sounds too much to me. you dont like these therefore you are not happy in these relationship. all i can say is its not gona last
2007-12-03 19:25:39 · answer #6 · answered by lucy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋