Chance of trasmitting STD during uprotected sex?

Question

This will prbably sound stupid but... if my partner and I had unprotected sex sevral times, on the better side of 10 times, not including oral before I found out there is a slim chance of him having an STD, what are the chances of me getting it? 1. the chance of him having one is very slim, but its still there and that concerns me 2. I plan to get tested and ask the nurse this same question, but he is refusing insisting he doesnt have one cuz the girl didnt have 1 (no he didnt cheat, we were sperated and I was tested before we were back together so I know if I have one now its form him) and 3. he is having problems getting and maintaining an erection and sex just isnt the same, I dont kno if it is pyhcological (that girl called him small down there, but hes not) mabey the fact he knew I fooled around with some1 else

I just wanted to know that if we are now monogamis (which i slightly question) and I get tested and come up clean after having unprotected sex that much, then would it be safe to conclude that he is also clean, again that is only if we are monogomis

Answer 1

If your partner has had an STD whilst you have had unprotected sex with him, then there is a high chance of your being infected. It seems that you are both having sex with various partners so any unprotected sex would be extremely unwise. Ask yourself why he is refusing to be tested and do you want to be with someone that cannot prove he is not infected.
Get tested and always stay protected.
Seek counselling from the clinic.

Answer 2

I think that if he has one you probably have one too. There are certain STDs that won't pass every time and he may carry them for a while before passing it to you but if you've done it so many times it's unlikely. Definitely ask the nurse, she can give you a list of things to look for both on you and him and you can just keep a look out for any potential problems. There are certain things though that won't show up on a guy like HPV which can end up causing you to get cervical cancer. Your risk of ending up with something pretty serious is high enough that you should never have unprotected sex even when you are pretty sure you're both monogamous. Unless you know 100% (which is impossible) try to be safe.

Also, it can take a few months for these diseases to show up positive on a test. Even if he was clean at the point when you got back together and didn't have sex with anyone else the test can come out differently now that the disease/infection has had a chance to take hold. STDs aren't just a messy consequence, they can be really serious and even life threatening.

Answer 3

1) Never have sex without protection. Saves everyone a headache. My doctor and her husband, myself and my husband, lots of monogomous people use them. It's a good backup for when you forget your pill and it protects you from STD's.

2) He can't tell if the girl didn't have one because women usually do not show symptoms until long after the disease has been in their body. Chlamydia? No symptoms in at least 70% of all women. HPV? No symptoms but transmissible, even if it's causing dysplasia in her cervix at the time. Herpes? Can take a year or more to break out the first time. HIV? 10 years no symptoms in a lot of cases.

3) He's a moron and you should dump him. If he doesn't love you enough to get tested, he doesn't love you. Period. Leave. If you have to ask strangers on the Internet about this you're playing with your life and health and the guy just isn't worth it.

4) The chance is very significant. Avoid the risk. Use a condom every time.

Answer 4

NO make sure he gets tested EVEN if you come out clean or negative for STD's. There is a chance that he could have something but just didn't pass it onto you yet. Another thing that concerns me is his problem with erections. Certain STD's can have those effects. So for sure no matter what DO NOT have sex with him until you are both tested and safe, good luck girl!

Answer 5

He has a possibility of a std. A girl can have no symptoms of any kind till its too late. Anyone can also be a carrier and not be affected by it. So he could have just gave it to you with out knowing. I would refuse sex till both of you are tested. If he is not mature enough to make sure he is not infected, then what else will he not take care of ???...

Answer 6

NO it can take days weeks years for systems to show up I would never have unprotected sex with him again or sex period with him because even if you do get checked come up clean then he cheats there went that test and sounds like you don't trust him

Answer 7

If he does have an STD there is a good chance you got it with that much unprotected sex. .
A bigger question is WHY are you with this guy? It sounds like neither one of you are absolutely committed to each other. I would re-think this relationship.

Answer 8

Nah, you both need to be checked. The chances are pretty high, if he's been sleeping around since. You can still be tested negative while he's carrying...doesnt mean you wont catch it. Get both of you in to the doc...and think about protection from now on....dont be stupid.

Answer 9

definitely not safe! 1. you'll never know if he sleeps with anyone else (like he'll tell you anyways) 2. you can never be sure if the girl he slept with (or sleeps with) is clean. 3. YOU CAN NEVER BE TOO SURE!!!

there are alot of deseases out there so don't trust your bf by trust alone. STD is one thing but there are other things you can get as well... like CRABS! (eww)

and if you think your bf is not small... how sure are you that he's not? maybe the girl he slept with concept of BIG is something you haven't seen yet. and if your bf is mentally tortured by this... i'm sorry, but he's just stupid!

Answer 10

Monogamous relationships are safest when BOTH partners know by medical testing their body systems aren't hosting any STDs.

For your own peace of mind, get tested.

For the single or sexually free, the best law is: "No glove, No love". Until your reunited partner gets himself tested, I'd without fail follow the "No glove, No love" rule. Once he sees you're strict about this law, he'll cave in and get tested.