A workmate has young children and a mortgage. All this year severe headaches have kept him away from work on many occasions and he has used all of his sick and holiday leave.
His wife has just lost her job, and Christmas is coming. He is a proud self reliant person.
2007-11-29 23:09:50 · 9 answers · asked by pete the pirate 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Pride has a horrible way of making situations worse than they already are. You don't say what you want to do for him and his family, but I would try and do whatever it is anonymously, if it's at all possible. When someone has an overabundance of pride, saying thank you can be next to impossible for them to do. If you don't want to do "it" anonymously, then just simply do whatever, not giving the guy any time to say "Thanks anyway, but no", just let them know you are there and that you care. If you see a need, try and fill it.
2007-11-29 23:24:31 · answer #1 · answered by Laurie K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You give him a Christmas bonus for doing such a good job.
You shove an envelope addressed to him, with money in it, under his door, signed "anonymous".
You ask him to work plenty of overtime.
You have a department store deliver gifts for the family, or a grocery store deliver food, from an anonymous friend.
By the way, I have been wanting a New House!! LOL
Honestly, you are a good person to be so concerned. He has a great friend in you.
Have a very Merry Christmas, and a very prosperous and healthy New Year!!
2007-11-30 07:20:11 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to help and expect no kudos in return, then make up a hamper filled with Christmas goodies including toys for the children, gift vouchers for supermarkets and department stores. Have it delivered to him at home with a card saying he won it in a competition/raffle.
I've done the same thing for the past 3 years for a very lonely impoverished man who doesn't know me from a bar of soap. Not quite the same scenario I know.
I hope things get better for your workmate. He has a good friend in you.
2007-11-30 07:43:43 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Sally Anne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Can you donate some of your "sick time" and "holiday or vacation" days to him, perhaps others, can do the same. If he balks, tell him, someday, he may have the chance to return the favor.
Also you and some others could volunteer to do some things for him, chores he needs done, or driving... Leave an envelope with cash, on his desk, unsigned, with a note saying "From Santa, use this as you need, and repay, by doing the same for someone, someday" ...
2007-11-30 08:54:56 · answer #4 · answered by Foggy Idea 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of the other answers have great ideas, hard to add to them, except this: See if your company will allow employees to donate sick days to other people. In some companies, sick days don't carry over from year to year, so employees have sick days left over at the end of the year that haven't been used. Your company may allow those people to "donate" one day to this employee.
2007-11-30 07:33:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are you intending to do? Go round there on christmas morning with the biggest turkey you can find for Bob Cratchet and his family??
Come on! Its christmas, its hard for everyone, ask him as a friend if he's going to be able to cope, don't be afraid to ask, he might be too proud to ask, but he might need it anyway. Or he might suprise you and not need or want any help at all, but if you are aware of his situation, and you feel you want to help then don't worry too much. I know you wouldn't to offer help and for your friend to be insulted, you can make annoymous donations of gifts or money to his family. Find a way if you really want to help!
2007-11-30 07:16:48 · answer #6 · answered by pazza_sez 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
speak to the boss and try to get a collection together form everyone at work. Have the boss give it to him as his christmas bonus, this way he will think he earned it, also, chip in and buy him a ham or turkey from the company as well..
2007-11-30 08:38:46 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Rhonda 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So what are you offering him? It isn't clear. You can't make a person feel what they aren't feeling. If you are going to provide a Christmas for them. Just leave the packages at his doorstep and don't let him know who it's from. That way he can't refuse them.
2007-11-30 07:13:54 · answer #8 · answered by queenmaeve172000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're looking to purchase gifts for the young ones just do it and leave it at the house. anonymously or not. you could also have it sent ups. gather up some co workers and have a few do some baking too.
2007-11-30 07:21:14 · answer #9 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋