There is this really hot guy workin at a coffee shop near my college.. I just can't stop staring at him.. I go there almost everyday... And he SOOO knows that I like him.. When I smile at him, he smiles back.. My friends say that he looks at me more than usual (but they'd say that just to make me feel better)... Oh..And when I don't go to the cafe for 3-4 days.. he asks me why I haven't been around..
Do you think he's interested in me or is he just being polite? I mean.. I'm pretty sure a lota other girls hit on him too.. So is he just doing his job being nice to the customers or is he genuinely interested?
I don't wanna ask him out and look like an idiot when he says he's seeing someone else.. or if he says no to me..
2007-11-29 22:30:46 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I work in a coffee shop and you have to be polite to all customers, and you may be viewing this through rose-tinted glasses. What you need to do is test it. Flirt a little bit, ask him some abstract questions. If he continues to flirt back then you should ask him out, definitely.
There's nothing worse than not knowing, especially when you're 'smitten' - great word!
2007-11-29 22:36:33 · answer #1 · answered by cajundancemathews 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its kinda hard to know if he really likes you without asking him but for sure, he's being polite & friendly to you coz you're a regular in the coffee shop & he pretty much know you a bit. that doesn't mean though that he's just being polite. he may like you too. why don't you have a male friend ask him what he thinks of you, if he likes you. make sure though that he doesn't know that the one asking him is a friend of yours. otherwise you still won't get the truth. do a little research but don't be a stalker. :) good luck.
2007-11-29 22:38:13 · answer #2 · answered by nightcreature 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like this guy, you should talk to him more. If he seems happy to talk, that might be your cue to ask him out (try to make the first event something casual). If he says no, or admit he has a girlfriend, he should be a bit guilty about leading you on. Give it a shot. You only live once. And now that I've been in love a couple of times, I realize that you only really regret the things you DIDN"T do...not the things you did.
2007-11-29 22:36:24 · answer #3 · answered by sci55 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with you? Just ask the guy out. If he says no, then you're no worse off. If he says yes, well, then enjoy your date!
Do you think he'll stand up on the counter and announce to the world, "HA HA, THIS LOSER JUST ASKED BE OUT BUT I ALREADY HAVE A GIRLFRIEND. LET'S ALL HUMILIATE HER!!!!"? Of course not..... and if, in the insanely unlikely possibility that he DOES, then he's an antisocial jerk and you saved yourself far more heartache by finding that out up front.
If somebody asks me out on a date or tries to pick me up (I am happily married btw), I take it as it's obviously intended: as a compliment. I just politely decline, and let them know I'm flattered by their attention. It does happen, which is only to be expected since people aren't telepathic.
2007-11-29 22:38:02 · answer #4 · answered by poorcocoboiboi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he is interested. I think that because I have worked retail and I've probably seen a couple hundred people in one day and for him to remember you and how long it's been since he last seen you....yes, he is thinking about you! Does he go to college also? I would make more small talk with him and find these things out...see what you have in common. Good luck!
2007-11-29 22:37:26 · answer #5 · answered by mageta8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, i think he is or he won't be asking you why you weren't around when you're not.
ithink you should find out more about him. it's hard keeping to yourself what you feel about him. but it is much hard and is humiliating to be turned down if you make the first move.
but then again, if he is really interested in you just help him a bit by showing him that you are an approachable person.
2007-11-29 22:42:16 · answer #6 · answered by sweetie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When paying for your coffe, give him a little note with your phonenumber! You will avoid being put down in front of other people and he will have time to think about it! and if no reaction, no worries, at least you gave it a try! What can you lose???
2007-11-29 22:36:23 · answer #7 · answered by Chickoon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should dance for being so alive. And just remember, it always feels good when people have crushes on us. If he doesn't crush back, at least you let him know what you see in him--its a beautifully selfless and scary thing, and I hope you can do it!
Life is crazy.
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2007-11-29 22:40:28 · answer #8 · answered by Jean Low 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might, but you will never know until you ask him. get more flirty and see how he responds. i'm a guy, and i know this. I love it when a girl asks if i'm single. if he says yes, give him your number, if he's interested, he'll call that night.
2007-11-29 22:34:57 · answer #9 · answered by sean24seven 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ask him out, i think he is interested. either that or he is being polite.
2007-11-29 22:42:40 · answer #10 · answered by superstar ;)' 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋