I bet most of you would understand where im coming from with this, but i need a lil help, a few months ago my bf broke up with me because he felt i wasnt clear on my career direction and broke up with me because of it. I have tried so very hard to over come this issue, and with that i have got myself a good paying job in a law firm, im not at all dependant, i have my own flat, a great car, and im buggered if i know now how to please him, i thought maybe if i got myself a decent job he would relise im not the bludger he made me out to be and would reconsider where we stand with each other, but im afraid that he will find something else that's wrong with me and i will be back in square one where i started.
Do you think i am wasting my time with him? I mean after all, all my efforts have been made to please him..
What do you think??
2007-11-29 21:56:58 · 20 answers · asked by * STAR * 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes. Why would you want to be with someone who belittle's you? Well, your effort originally was to please him ...and for that you bettered yourself. That was then. This is now. You put yourself in a great position to do anything now. Go out there and get someone else! They will appreciate you more and look at you with the same level of integrity.
2007-11-29 22:00:57 · answer #1 · answered by Little Foot 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Going out of your way to please someone so desperately is one of the greatest mistake of your lifetime, love is unconditional and pure, making someone to be like you or trying to show what you want from another person and forcing it on their throat is not love, baby girl be yourself and dont try to change who you are as far as you are not doing any bad thing, for how long would u stand this kind of attitude, the next thing he would force you do is to choose where you work, how you should talk etc, will you be able to take it all your life, i think is a waste of time with this guy, it is better to have a broken relationship than a broken marriage.
2007-11-30 06:10:32 · answer #2 · answered by zainab gangaali 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you're wasting your time, I reckon.
I think it isn't always easy to put one's finger on why one doesn't want to be with a girl anymore... and even when it is, most people won't tell her the real reason anyways.
So you probably just wasted a lot of energy trying to please this doofus, and maybe he broke up with you because he just got tired of seeing the same face every day. On the bright side, you have a nice job now, and some money.
Hang out with your friends and fingers crossed you'll eventually find someone who can make you forget him.
2007-11-30 06:05:13 · answer #3 · answered by Mr Milquetoast 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on get away from him clearly he is nit picking at you and u dont want to be around someone who doesnt saport ur decisions in life.He is emotionally abusive and guys like that are wrong for even being alive they rank right up there with pond scum, women abusers,child molesters and that whits stuff that developes at the corner of your mouth when ur really thirsty all a waste of space and time
2007-11-30 06:07:04 · answer #4 · answered by wolfettes lee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do I think? I think you need to take a good hard look at yourself and figure out why, for one second, you'd want to be with someone who loves you because of your career choice.
He's a jerk, and he doesn't love you. If he did he wouldnt have left you for this reason, he would have helped you figure out what you wanted to do, that's what love does! He broke up with you for more reasons than your lack of motivation, trust me on this.
There is a nicer man out there that would love you for who you are, start over, it's really not that bad. For now focus on you and your new career.
Forget about him!
2007-11-30 06:03:04 · answer #5 · answered by Leizl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been on yahoo answers and so far your's resembles my problem the best...I just ended my relationship with my girlfriend because she confessed she had other goals in mind, one of them its supposely she wants to study a career I told her I was not going to stand in her way and hope the best for her.....told her sorry that I couldn't wait for her to overcome that, but that i was tired of it already...and that I hope was what she really wanted to do rather than have a life together. I respect her decision, but like wise she should respect mine..................with all that said you can probably asked youre bf if theres still any remnants to fight for again, but I think he'll say good luck, don't blame him just wish the same for him as he did to you....................
2007-11-30 06:10:57 · answer #6 · answered by angel81 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't try to prove yourself to someone who does not accept you for who you are. be yourself and let someone who truely respects you see the real person you are.we all have many thing wrong with us we don't need some one to remind us.it this guy did not respect you before you had a good paying job than he does not respect you now. find someone new.
2007-11-30 06:07:18 · answer #7 · answered by catsclaw 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you changing yourself for some guy? You are you and if he doesnt like the way you are of the things you do then thats his problem. Dont conform to other ppl ideals. Be you!
2007-11-30 06:01:14 · answer #8 · answered by Freckles2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he has clearly made you feel very insecure an dlike your not good enough for him when really te truth is he isnt worth your trouble. just move on hun theres someone else out there they wont make you feel like that way. best of luck
2007-11-30 06:03:55 · answer #9 · answered by Amy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's great that you've got a good life for yourself, your future sounds bright. If he still isn't happy then enjoy your life with someone else.
2007-11-30 06:02:17 · answer #10 · answered by eclipsed2908 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋