2007-11-29 21:42:29 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Refer him to a family doctor, if you have one, or ask him to call a hotline and find a support group. Also, just be there for him :) It's a good sign he wants help...
2007-11-29 21:45:19 · answer #1 · answered by darkjosh333 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Aww, I'm really sorry that you have to go through with this. You're being sucha great girlfriend, though!
The first step to dealing with a problem is admitting that you need help, so it's a really good sign that your bf has asked you to help him. However, the best thing to do right now would be for him to get help from some medical professionals and possibly go through a drug rehab program. Although he probably could just go to counseling or something, it would be so much better if he had access to a support group of some kind and had medical professionals around to monitor his health----the drugs have almost certainly done really nasty things to him physically, so he should have some sort of medical professional watching over him while he is going through the very difficult process of fighting a drug problem. If your bf is a minor and his parents don't know about the problem yet, you should probably also tell his parents what is going on or have him or some other trusted person do it.
Anyway, as for you, I recommend that you also find a support group of some kind so that you have access to people who can help YOU through this. I know it must be hard for you to watch this, too, and you definitely also deserve to have A LOT of emotional support or even just have answers to any questions or concerns you might have.
http://www.familiesanonymous.org/
If you're in school, you might want to go to a guidance counselor----and whereever you are, please know that there are people out there who care. If you've got any close friends or family nearby, then please go to them whenever you feel you need help. You don't have to be the only one to support your boyfriend, and you are also entitled to support.
2007-11-30 06:02:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take him to the nearest Drug Rehab. They will evaluate him and see what help he needs. Most places have a 28 day program, followed by going to meetings. Most drug offenders will reuse, unless they really want to quit, but it is a struggle, and a live change. You need to really watch who you are around after treatment, if you are around people that use, you will offend again, so you need to watch who you associate with, if you want to stay clean. This is a very hard thing to stop, and it takes a very strong person to do this, and the more support he has the better.
2007-11-30 06:03:01 · answer #3 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NEVER UNDERESTIMATE THE POWER OF LOVE
He told you because he needs help, it's the truest test of love for you. An opportunity to really stand by him and give him all the support he needs to get over it. He needs your moral, emotional and spiritual support right now if you trully love him. Because, this is an addiction; you'll have to make time out to talk to him over it forthnightly without being forcy or pushy. Try to encourage him to refrain from friends who are bad influence on him, but, remember, you shouldn't be forcy about it. Endeavour you spend much of your leisure with him to check him with love; let him know you believe he can give it up. You don't have to make him feel guilty or bad about it, all he needs is your support.
More importantly, encourage him to see a doctor when necessary, pray along with him and ensure you are there for him daily. If you can't see him in a day, give him a call, keep his company thereby knowing how is faring. This may take some time, he cannot stop it soonest, but, gradually his interest in drugs will begin to wane and before you know it, he has got over it. But, you'll need to be strong, determined and courageous to really help him fight this deadly habit. You have to let him know that he could jeopardize your lovelife if he fails to give up this habit.
My dear, if there is any time that he needs your love, trust, care, support, encouragement and prayers, it is now. That's why I said earlier that it's the truest test of your love for him. And I tell you. if he loves you indeed, he will respond positively to your advice and wishes since it's for his well-being. Always remind him of how much you want you two to live a healthy lovelife without any risks of health. I want you to know that I have had the privilege to witness a more difficult problem that love solved. No mountain is insurmountable with love, so, it's only your love for him NOW that can get him out of this situation. Be there for him and you won't regret it.
On the whole, I'm sure you know about Whitney Houston and Bobby Brown's marriage; you know she forfeits almost everything to help him, but, it's unfortunate that he doesn't love her as much as she loves him. And that was why he couldn't give up his addiction for her, but, if he had loved her as much as she does, he would have given it up. So, this is the truest test of love for you both; it's an opportunity for him to prove to you that he would do anything to make you happy; while you'll have to prove how far you can go for him. Again, my dear, your love, his love are MUCH STRONGER for this addiction, so start the fight to victory now.
2007-11-30 18:21:25 · answer #4 · answered by everforlove1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Refuse to spend time with him when he is on drugs. Insist he get into a program for help.Do not accompany him when he goes to a drug party.
Make sure you do not join in on occasion . Stay strong.
Because this is going to cause you some heartache.
2007-11-30 05:49:30 · answer #5 · answered by Linda S 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
guide him to a rehab facility.... AA group or other support system. do not drink or do drugs with him or around him. save yourself. tell him that you cannot let him bring you and/or your loved ones down... so he has to straighten up now. otherwise you cannot continue to place yourself in jeopardy. you can go to the support groups with him. or attend your own.. to understand the problem. do not give or lend him money.
2007-11-30 05:54:01 · answer #6 · answered by foosieboy1953 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it depends what drug but i think that you should be there for him and support him al t nhe way through, go to the doctors with him and maybe he should see a concilor so go there with him aswell, just show him that you love him and will be there for him no matter what because it would be so hard for him without any help or support at all
2007-11-30 05:48:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He asked you to help him so its good.The first thing you have yo do is contact a health worker or if you can go to a rehabillitation center and enroll him so he can change and be undrug user.
2007-11-30 05:46:47 · answer #8 · answered by Felicity 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
encourage him to seek professional help as soon as possible. Start with a doctor and they can recommend other people to you.Be there to support him and don't judge , just listen to him
2007-11-30 05:45:07 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ MISS YELLOW DIAMOND★☺♀ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
its a good sign that he's asking for your help.this means he wants to change. Help him to find a doctor or make him go to a rehab.
2007-11-30 05:52:43 · answer #10 · answered by DB_MONTY 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋