I met a guy we have been dating pretty heavy since we met {1month} He has done very well for himself money wise beautiful home, he collects art and so on. And me i do okay not able to have a fancy car house take fancy trips. But sometimes i am offended by certain remarks, i told him so he says i wont apologize for being who i am or what i have he says in no way are his remarks met to offend me. and i dont want him to apologize for what he has. But what i do want is to feel comfortable and feel asthough this could be something meaningful no matter what i have!!!!!!!!!
2007-11-29 21:37:21 · 6 answers · asked by latora_king 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi Latora, seems you're in a tricky situ (I read your other Q). As an outsider I hear that he's not making much effort to introduce you to his kin and he's making you feel uncomfortable about the way you live...
Now maybe the others that suggest you have to allow him his weaknesses and accept him for who he is, may have a point .. but forgive me I can't see it.
This guy's social status should carry with it decency, morals, acceptance and compassion .. else it has to be questioned how he got to where he is...
Whatever you do, don't go beyond your means to "fit in". For all his worth, he hasn't got love...and that's has to be questioned.
Keep your cards close to your chest .. remind him that certain things make you feel uncomfortable, or at least, the way he implies things. If his intentions are honorable and if he has that compassion and understanding, then he will be aware of the situ's that make you feel out of place and he should try to avoid them.
Keep one eye open eh.
2007-11-30 09:11:40 · answer #1 · answered by ~☆ Petit ♥ Chou ☆~ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all you have to accept of being the person who you are, and not look at the things that someone else has accomplished. I do understand deeply how you feel when it seems like someone makes you feel less than them. Be proud of the person you are and the things that you are trying to accomplish in life for yourself.
I understand that you might feel offended by certain remarks that he makes. My advice to you is that try now to say anything that you may feel affended by him in saying things to him that he might respond back to you in a way that you may not approve of.
You have a right to feel comfortable and feel as though this could be a meaningful relationship between the both of you, no matter what you might have. Sometime when we are with a person who may have a little more than the other person, we sometimes fall in a situation where we start to have a low self-esteem. Pick your self up and thank God for what you have and has accomplished in life for yourself.
Things could be worst, just think about if you did not have anythng at all. Be thankful and keep your head to the sky and the things that you desire shall come in your behalf. I hope that I was kind of helpful to your needs. Take care and I wish you the best.
2007-11-30 16:24:46 · answer #2 · answered by Baby V V 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that love &respect need to be given, earnt & need both of you to expect to be respected&loved & to love &respect back. also remember that if we were all the same life would be boring. differences plus some shared things bring excitment ,spice& kindle romance.
Merry Christmas to you both!
2007-11-30 06:03:45 · answer #3 · answered by Phantom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your going to have to find out do i want a man that loves me or do i want a man that can take care of me
2007-11-30 05:42:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like he is an old man set in his ways...let him be himself and accept him.
if you cant then i would move on!!
2007-11-30 05:41:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love this person, you'll accept his weaknesses. take it slowly if your not very sure of your feelings for him.
2007-11-30 05:48:37 · answer #6 · answered by DB_MONTY 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋