My husband met an old friend last night and learnt that his 15 year old son had recently died suddenly in his sleep.
My husband told him I would Email his wife today.
I have sat here crying for hours trying to think what to write.
Nothing I write means anything.
Does anyone know what I should write as I haven't a clue.
Or any sites that could help me?
2007-11-29 21:31:52 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I haven't got her phone number and she lives 500 miles from me, it's a few years since I have seen them all.
I would have prefered to call or write but I only have an old address for them.
2007-11-29 21:43:58 · update #1
Ruby girl
What a disgusting piece of slime you are.
2007-11-29 21:54:49 · update #2
This happened to a friend of mine. She is now a founder member of a charity called CRY who are a group of people to whom this has happened and they offer immense support.
Come back to me if you need any further assistance.
I am so sorry for you.
EDIT: Here is the website address...... www.c-r-y.org.uk
2007-11-29 21:48:16 · answer #1 · answered by Ladyfromdrum 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean when you say the words you write don't seem to mean anything-they may seem that way to you as no words can ever describe what someone close means to us-nothing can ever come close!
The best I can suggest is to let them know that you're sorry for their loss, and offer your support-remind them that you'll only ever be a phone call, email or letter away if they need anything.
Such a terrible loss-I'm so sorry. XX
2007-12-02 20:39:09 · answer #2 · answered by Loulla 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just say that you are so sorry for the loss of their child. Tell them that you realize that you can not even imagine what they are experiencing right now. Let them know that you are available if there is any way you can be of help, or if they just need someone to talk to.
I would not go into detail or ask too many questions right now. They probably are tired of discussing it with everyone.
2007-11-30 05:46:26 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Would it not be better to visit? I think its a bit impersonal to email, even a phone call would be better than an email.
If it had to be an email why not say something like, My husband has come home and told me what happened to your son. Im so sorry for your loss, i cant imagine how you are feeling. We both send our love and are thinking about you.
You could even ask if she wants to meet up or if she needs anything.
I hoped that helps a little
2007-11-30 05:37:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
I lost my son just over a year ago there is a site called gonetosoon.co.uk which is a free memorial site. There you will find some lovely poems.
Or just write to say how sorry you are at thier trajic loss and mention their son's name.
Hope you find what your looking for
2007-11-30 19:50:01 · answer #5 · answered by Nicky T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I lost my brother 25 years ago, I can some what empathize with you but I still think of hom everyday. My best advice is this, when you write the email to her, tell her all the emotions that you are feeling. The fact that you will be "soul" typing (typing out all the emotions your soul can produce) will be heartfelt and im sure they will.....appreciate(?) that. When you are writing tho, dont make judgement calls!
2007-11-30 05:44:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you were so sorry to hear her sad news, and if she ever wants to talk to you you will be there for her.
I really wouldn't put any more than that. There is nothing you can say that will make her feel any better, and often it's best not to even try because you can just sound condescending.
2007-11-30 09:05:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You husband committed an email on your behalf and gave a deadline? If you think an email is appropriate, write it when you can form your own words. That may be today, tomorrow or next week.
2007-11-30 11:10:15 · answer #8 · answered by Level 7 is Best 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Explain to her what you've just explained to us and that nothing you write seems to mean anything and just offer to be there for them.
Try not to 'crowd' them either, they may not want it and although I don't doubt you're a very good friend grief for some people is a very private thing that they may need time and space to work through on their own.
All the best.
2007-11-30 05:40:37 · answer #9 · answered by charlie 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I have lost a child and know there is nothing you can say to really help. No words can help at this time for the mother and father. But knowing there is people that are there and love you gives you strength. Just let her know you are there if she needs you.
2007-11-30 07:36:44 · answer #10 · answered by ADH 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋