I want my wife be submissive to me.If we had a quarrel,she always have a distance to me and NEVER SAY sorry!I am a man and I want her to be the first to approach me by showing her sweetness.She has a big pride that makes me disappointed.She always says,if you treat me bad,i will treat you same way.I think she has a strong character.But if we are okay,she can do anything as a good wife but if we had fight,she is like a tiger...pls. advice.I want her to follow me coz I am a man.
2007-11-29 20:22:30 · 4 answers · asked by macey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So for you, a 'good' wife is someone who is submissive at all times, and does what you want all the time, and doesn't fight with you?
Oh please.
You are very LUCKY that a woman with such a strong character is actually bothering to stay with you. In fact, you're damn bloody lucky she married you in the first place! She must genuinely love you!
This is the 21st century, pal. Marriage is about compromise, the most successful relationships and marriages are based on mutual respect and compromise. And as a man and a husband, you have to earn your woman's respect, it doesn't come automatically just because you're a man. Sorry!
It sounds like you have to be the bigger person and learn to apologise for about half the fights you have. I think you love your wife, probably just as much for her feistiness as for her other qualities, so learn to live with this, and learn to compromise. She will too.
2007-11-29 20:35:53 · answer #1 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife has no obligation to do everything you say. She is her own person with her own body and mind. Of course a husband and wife should respect one another and consider each others wishes, but to expect her to do everything you say and wish can be emotionally abusive.
My suggestion is learn to embrace her character. You love her and should love her as she is.
2007-11-29 20:28:43 · answer #2 · answered by Chelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were a man, you wouldn't concern yourself with her submission. You would concern yourself with those things which make you a man and make her feel like a woman. Stop treating her like a man, and she'll stop acting like one.
2007-11-29 20:28:08 · answer #3 · answered by Xanadu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you wanted something to obey you, you should have got a dog not a wife...I like your wife, she puts you in your place, she should put you outside in the doghouse...Try respecting your wife and honoring her, because what you want you will not get....
2007-11-29 20:42:31 · answer #4 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋