Unsure: Does he like me? How do make sure? What do I do?!?

Question

I don't really know the guy, I just have had two classes with him. He sits in the row in front of me, and I always catch him looking at me (not in a psycho, weird way. haha). It sucks 'cause when it comes to guys, I'm super shy (normally, I'm the loudest, most outgoing person), so I can't really get myself to look back at him and smile or whatever. It's hard! I try, though. Seriously. I blush at the drop of a hat! If you look at me, I blush. It's horrible! Not to mention embarassing.

We've talked a little bit and he's so smart! haha I think it's fantastic! He's initiated the little chit-chats, too. But, the thing is that I think he's a bit shy, too, so our shyness clashes. The other day, he was walking in front of me after class, but he realized I was behind him, so he slowed down (waaaay down), but I was so nervous and had no idea what to say, so I just passed him. haha Total dork move.

Oh, and I'm 19 and he's 25. So do I just steer clear because of that?

Okay, so I've been able to talk to him a couple more times since I posted this. He's super smart. lol I feel kinda dumb. lol He's definitely an intellectual, so how would I go about keeping up a conversation 'cause everytime we talk, it's usually about psychology, science, religion, etc. ? Help? lol Thank for the answers you guys!

Answer 1

You have to communicate with this man in some way as to not be so awkward for the both of you, in some way that you both will feel comfortable. Voicing your thoughts would be the most direct way, but I sense it would be difficult for you.

Before your next class with him, prepare a note. Explain that you are somewhat shy and apologize for your earlier move. If possible, instead of handing him the note, just talk to him and tell him what you wrote out. Sometimes if we rehearse on paper what we intend to tell someone, it just helps.

If you cannot talk to him due to your shyness, hand him the note. It sounds somewhat sophomoric, perhaps, to pass a note, but you have to start somewhere. Chances are that once he reads it, he will understand and take things from there. If you get tongue tied again, share your email address with him and start things going. Meanwhile, smile and remember to breath.

However you go about it, you must communicate, otherwise you will lose this chance.

BTW, the age difference really isn't a big deal for the two of you, you're both old enough and should be mature enough to make a go of it.

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Since he is very smart, he will understand that you have not had as many classes yet, so be your self and just relax with him. Offer your sincere opinon when asked, and enjoy him where you are at. You might even ask him to help with some of your homework if you get stuck, he will be flattered and helpful at the same time.

Answer 2

The age difference is a little steep, but not insurmountable.

If you're tongue tied around him you can try asking him out on a date through an indirect means like an email or even a letter dropped on his desk. It's a little corny but some has to break the ice or you'll both be left wondering what could have been but never was.

Go for a light date, something spontaneous like coffee after class and explain your shyness in the letter. A lot of men have trouble with mixed signals.

Answer 3

No just get the courage to talk to this guy are prepare yourself to be single all your life. Which do you prefer? I'm 29 now and had one girlfriend. I have to come out of my shell or I will remain single all my life. I decided the single life is not for me. Is it for you?