I lost my fiancee due to cancer back on March 2004. We were as you could say the perfect couple! We were so in love and then that happened. He was tough, he wanted to fight it off but the illness took over him. He even apologized the day he passed saying: "I'm sorry for dissapointing you but I'm just too weak to fight anymore" I miss him terribly he was perfect! When he left he said he would be my angel of love and send someone worthy my way. I have been in other relationships after that, but nothing too serious. Last year I met this guy whose 11 years older than me, and it has lasted over a year. But this guy seems to be a little weird, he is controlling, he doesn't want me having guy friends, he wants me to only be with him and not do anything. He's very jelaous. I have feelings for him but I'm afraid of him too (he has never hit me tho) When this new guy goes crazy I miss my fiancee even more, is it wrong? I'm too confused. When this guy is not crazy he is very sweet, so maybe my
2007-11-29 20:07:05 · 16 answers · asked by CK 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"angel of love" send him my way....but I don't know I'm confused! On the other hand, my family is not supportive at all, when my fiancee passed I didn't even get a hug or a "Im sorry everything will be alright, what can I help with.." And now with this bf they just say they hate him and don't want him in the house. But also they give me a hard time too treating me like the bad black sheep of the family.... Any help?
2007-11-29 20:10:36 · update #1
Cut this guy loose! He isn't the kind of man your fiancee would have sent to you. When you meet the real guy, you won't have to ask any questions on yahoo, trust me you will know. He won't be someone that wants to control or scares you in the least!
2007-11-29 20:11:46 · answer #1 · answered by luvmycoke29 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Husband died at 24 leaving me with 3 little girls. You have been hurt and it will leave a permanent scar on your heart. But you will heal and find another to love and who will love you back. The man you are describing is not a good man. You must end this relationship before he does hit you or cause some other serious problem for you. I understand why you have feelings for him, the reason is you have a very difficult time with your family. They have not given you the support you needed when you lost your darling. Go to a therapist and let him or her help you sort your feelings. The fact you are afraid of this man is proof that this is not a sane stable person. Please listen to all of your answers and let them guide you.
2007-11-29 20:26:51 · answer #2 · answered by older is wiser 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm so very, very sorry! I have not lost a fiance or boyfriend to death myself, but I have had a few friends who have. Mainly due to the war.
But, I also do not think that it is wrong for you to miss your fiance. When you become engaged, that's when your relationship is meant to last forever and your obviously in love. It's hard to forget that when you have given someone a piece of your heart and you have a piece of theirs. It just takes time to move on.
2007-11-29 20:13:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him love!! itll hurt you when you let him go but its for the best! u might like this guy when hes at his best but didnt you like ur fiancee all the time?? this new guy is holding you back from possibly a new meaningfull realationship with another person.. i think you should drop him.. its for the best!
sorry both your loss also. hope i helped.
2007-11-29 20:15:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
im sorry for your pain. leave this new man, he sounds like he's not for you. if he's controlling you now it will only get worse. you should be free to be your own person. i would say trust ur instincts and get away from him now. i know you miss ur fiance but dont settle with the crazy guy.
2007-11-29 20:13:13 · answer #5 · answered by lucy6 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Beth: 1961-1997. Lost battle with cardiac problems.
Beth made me believe in love at first sight. A week doesn't go by that I don't think of her.
2007-11-29 20:10:21 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Wizard 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A guy who wants to control you in his world is not a guy to be long. This guy is not a open-minded person and you won't be happy under his control in a long run. Everyone needs space for his/her own.
2007-11-29 20:13:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
life is too short. don't let urself to be confused with the new one. God is just checking your patience. infact, its ur test by God. live happy. be utilitarian. the person like ur thought , you will soon find.
best of luck
2007-11-29 20:34:12 · answer #8 · answered by dream_gc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not wrong this guy is crazy...and you need to get out from the relationship
2007-11-29 20:10:42 · answer #9 · answered by thereha 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No but god bless them for this all things and i am sorry for them who lost something like this
2007-11-29 20:13:02 · answer #10 · answered by Abhishek Shrivastava 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋