Why don't most Christians/Catholics...?

Question

Why don't most Christians/Catholics take virginity serious in the U.S? Please don't be offended, because I ask this not intending to offend anyone. Also it's true, and I know its part of your religion to keep your virginity until marriage. But sex before marriage is glorified in the U.S, on TV and in real life. It makes Christians/Catholics (I Christians/Catholics but I know their not the only ones) look bad, when in fact it's against your religion. Why does it seem that you guys don’t care? And no one does anything to at least lessen the glorification on TV? That way *maybe* in real life people will not think it’s “cool” or “ok” to have sex before marriage. Please don’t side track just answer my questions, thanks.

Do you believe that God will forgive you even though you know what you are doing is wrong and you continue to do it because you know God will forgive you? What about repentance, how can one be forgiven when one is not sorry and doesn't continue to do wrong?

You are Christian/Catholic but you believe in premarital sex even though it’s against your religion, that’s because you want to believe and follow what you want to out of your religion.

I'm happy to know that some people here don't like pre-martial sex…

Answer 1

well i think that the reason that that is happening is because those people dont have a real relationship with God, they just call them selves christians because they go to church sometimes, if a person has a relationship with God then God would give the person the stringth to withstan the temptations


and for the second question the reason they think they will be forgiven anyway they just sireusly lack in knowloge of the bible

Answer 2

You ask a good question. I am a Catholic Christian and I agree with you. When was a boy, 50 y/a, this was a Christian country and our laws were based on the Jewish and Christian scriptures. We were tolerant of other religions but our culture was basically Christian. You would never have seen the things in the movies that you do now

Since then we have become a secular society and Christians have little influence over what is on TV or in the movies. Also, many people who call themselves Christians, no longer believe the Christian Scriptures (which includes the Jewish Scriptures)

There are Christian groups that are trying to change things so that the movies, TV, and culture no longer glorify sex outside of marriage but have not been very successful yet.

Many Protestant/Catholics are concerned about staying virgins until marriage and do just that. Unfortunately you would never know it by the movies and TV.

Thank you for you excellent question.

Answer 3

Maybe because many so-called religious people of these and other groups don't really care what God has to say on the subject of 'purity and holiness'. That may be why Jesus will say on the day of judgement, 'many will come to the gate expecting to be let in based on their religious practices only to be told that they never knew Jesus Himself'. If they had, they would have honored Him by respecting and obeying His Words in the Bible. While I do believe in God's great mercy and grace, I don't agree with turning one's back on the truth to satisfy a few fleeting momentary desires. I DO CARE! I am also grieved with the 'flood' of impurity in all forms of the media! Genuine believers and lovers of God, have their hearts set on the things above and are not caught in the snares of the enemy. The gross distortion of what God originally intended sex to be about, has become an epidemic spread by the deception of none other than satan himself. People belive the lies that the media promotes because they are afraid to know the 'convicting, life changing, truth'. Sex outside of marriage between a husband and his own wife is.... I dare say, a Sin. It does'nt matter what religion you are. It's not so much about 'breaking God's law' that matters here. It's more about trusting God's wisdom in the matter. He knows what's best for us. Even if we don't agree. Just look at the mess we've gotten ourselve into, demanding to have things our own way!? What have we got to show for it?!, dysfunctional families to say the least! If people bothered to ask God in the first place about their prospective spouse, there might not be so much divorce. Forgive me if I veered off the track there for a moment. Unfortunately there is a market for ' TV trash'. Thank God, it will eventually wind up where it belongs, in the 'pit' with it's pusher! I can almost hear the lid slamming shut!

Answer 4

I used to attend an evangelical Christian church. Met and married my husband there, actually. We upheld the no-sex before marriage teaching and had a lot of encouragement in doing so. We've been married 13 years.

Then the church got caught up in the Brownsville Revival. We left and went elsewhere. The pastor had a nervous breakdown and a senior associate pastor took over.

Three years ago, my husband's cousin was married in that church. She and her fiance did no uphold the no-sex before marriage teaching and had no encouragement to do so. In fact, they laughed and said everybody has sex before marriage now. Last summer, my husband's brother got married in a different evangelical church that also used to teach about waiting for marriage. He told my husband the same thing about waiting: "Nobody does that any more."

I don't know why things have changed so much in the last ten years in these two Biblically based churches.

My husband and I became Catholic some years ago. The Catholic Church still teaches that couples need to wait before marriage. In fact, where I live, a priest won't marry a couple if they are living together -- they need to make a commitment to celibacy and live apart before their marriage or they can't have a Catholic wedding. Even so, I hear this is unusual.

I do think that our culture puts enormous pressure on people to have sex at a young age, and our institutions of education help that along with the way they treat the topic as "everybody does it." Many churches have now eroded their view on this, same way they allowed their view on contraception and even abortion to erode. (The church we used to attend no longer participates in Pro-Life events like they did when we were going there.)

I can't tell you why others don't care -- I do, and I have three kids whom I'm trying to raise with the understanding that sex is ONLY for marriage and they need to wait. Looking back on it, I think it was the greatest wedding gift we could have received, because we were able to prove to each other that we could resist enormous temptation for the sake of our marriage vows.

Yes, I do believe that God forgives people for having premarital sex, but often that forgiveness cannot undo the damage that is done to the people's psyche by participating in premarital sex. Rarely do people have only one partner any more -- that could lead to dissatisfaction in the marriage bed, if one spouse is comparing the other to a previous partner.

I think the ramifications of your sin is worse if you doing knowing it's wrong and thinking you can just ask God for forgiveness later. We Catholics have the whole venial/mortal sin and purgatory thing that addresses this for us, but a lot of protestants are just playing fast and loose with the forgiveness that Christ shed His Blood to give us and that is extremely distasteful.

Repentance can't happen until the person is so sorry, they stop participating in the action. A lot of people are endangering their souls.

Answer 5

i am catholic. and yes it is hypocrisy to believe one thing and do the opposite. catholics arent perfect and we dont claim to be however we catholics do not commit sins with the view that God will forgive anyway ..thats just plain stupid. it is weakness why we give in to the flesh.

for myself growing up i never had the desire to marry but didnt want to go through life without experiencing sex - it was human curiosty not the desire to sin the motivating factor. too late to rewind the clock but i did discover that premarital sex is meaningless after practising it for many years. i was celibate for at least 5 yrs before meeting my husband. i was difinitely happier celibate then when i practised casual/premarital sex

i am back to being a happy celibate as i chose to leave my husband. does this mean im a hypocrite as divorce is against God's laws? no, it means im too weak to stay in a marriage that is abusive, this does not give me the right to seek another husband.

The Catholic Church is derided for Her stand on sexual morality even from other christians. I find the arguement "but man is a sexual being" utterly ridiculous because man is a spiritual being with a body. and youre right tv glories premarital sex which sux and it is shockig that it is no longer shocking or offensive but acceptable and publicly endorsed.

hope my 2cents worth helps
Peace

Answer 6

I take it serious, but I couldn't imagine waiting till I'm 30 to lose my virginity. I'm catholic, and I don't believe it is a sin to Love someone before marriage and make love with them. Why would it be a sin, if both people love one another and their consenting adults? No one is being hurt.

I don't take my religion at face value. I question, ask, read and reference. I do believe in God, though.

TV? Well, it's all about money, and to be quite frank, sex does sell.

It would also help if my catholic church set better examples,

In America we have a huge amount of freedom of speech compared to most countries, so your going to hear about sex before marriage more.

If you look around the world, there just might be more sex before marriage than in the U.S.A. French people love sex, but maybe they don't talk about it as much.

Oh boy, I don't want to even touch this subject any further! I could name alot more places and things that go on in other parts of the world, but I don't want to get in trouble with yahoo.

Answer 7

Because the majority of people who watch television/movies want to see more sex and violence. Since the country has a Chrisian majority according to the polls, It is possible to conclude that a majority of Christians are hypocritical. It is also partly because we have a constitution that gauruntees free speech, especially in artistic forms. I remember tv shows in the 60's that couldn't show a married couple sleeping in the same bed. That was a lie that was perpetuated by religious groups.I agree with you that this example of hypocrisy along with many others make Christians look bad.

Answer 8

Sex doesn't need TV to be glorified. It's not prevalent sex, it's the lack of trust in the institution of marriage. Since most Christian faiths aren't wild about divorce, either, one can't have sex without getting married, but one shouldn't get married unless they are absolutely positive they want to stay with that person for the rest of their existence. Basically, it's religion battling a person's own biological impulses, and often the body wins.

Answer 9

Wow. Great question. You're so right. We preach one thing in church, but live another way outside. It's disgusting hypocrisy, and Jesus will kick our butts for it. TV sucks, and I just paid $9 to see a movie tonight that I wish I would've saved. No one could seem to keep their clothes on, and I was very offended. Yet, Hollywood keeps making the filth and we keeping paying to see it. Wonder who's fault that is?

God bless.

Answer 10

God has forgiven... we just have to ask for it.

make not mistake, there is a devilish power in this world today, and has been... every thing that God values is under fire. thats why families are broken, thats why people don't see the need to hold onto purity, that is why infants are being killed in the safest place in the world- the womb... nothing is sacred to this generation.