How do i know if i have aniety or not without going to a doctor?

Question

im a teenage girl who thinks i have anxiety or somthing like that. im rly shy and its been hard for me to break out of my shell. i over think most things like i think about everything i do before i do it. school presentations are rly hard for me and i get shaking and eye contact is a real tuffy even with my friends i find i cant look at them straight in the eye how come? but the weirdest part is with my bestest friends im quite outgoing . id like to tell my parents how i feel but im too scared and dont know how to tell them. id like help i dont want to be like this forever. what should i do? i dont want my parents to think im crazy or thinnk that ive been hiding this from them forever wich i have but i dont want them to know . is there anyway for me to get over this? i just want to get rid of that constant butterfly in my stomac. thanks :D

Answer 1

sounds like very low self esteem. there are lots of things you can do like for one thing you can take herbal supplements and vitamins like vitamin b that help you relax, particulary before an event like a party, etc. Also did you know your diet can make you anxious like foods with sugar & caffeine in them. If you eat healthy & have muesli for breakfast, etc it helps. Also exercise that makes you sweat can leave you relaxed for maybe 24 hours afterwards & helps your self esteem. I think medication is very dangerous for this type of thing as you can get addicted & it's only masking the problem & not dealing with it. you could go to a phobia clinic (as in sounds like you have a social phobia) & they could help with counselling & cognitive behaviour techniques. Also you can try hypnosis & subliminal cd's that you can buy online or you can download them on your MP3 player (but make sure your friends don't find these or they may ridicule you - or maybe not if you have really nice friends). I used to be like you when I was a teenager but once I tried all of the above (but didn't try the phobia clinic thing) I have improved alot & even made it to having a management position in a company so it's amazing how much you can change. Also did you know that alot of teens who use drugs & alcohol are actually doing that to mask their shyness & lack of confidence? Don't go down that road though as it's shortlived as obviously when you're not drunk or on drugs you go back to being shy again & can get addicted. Are your family shy too? Or were they in the past maybe? If so then no big deal to come clean, they've probably noticed what you're like around strangers anyway & haven't said anything because they love you. In my case my whole family is shy but they've learnt to be outgoing as they became adults but I can see where some still struggle. It's better than being an arrogant loud person isn't it? They usually aren't very nice people & interestingly some of them are being loud, etc to mask that they actually feel unconfident. I do recommend the hypnosis/subliminal stuff though (but you need to keep it up for 30 days & go back to listening to it if you have a "relapse"), I've found that's helped me the most as well has giving up caffeine which I didn't realise made me so anxious as obviously some of us are just so sensitive to it. I notice I'm more likely to be shy & unconfident if I'm tired also. try this site http://www.thepotentialsunlimited.com the how to be popular one makes you feel comfortable around people and the effective public speaking one makes you feel good about speaking in front of others (not like for giving speech but just for talking in general) & the self confidence one would be good for you also.

Answer 2

Pick ONE parent (your choice) and approach them about this. They'll be less intimidating one at a time. Print out this question and all the answers and hand it to them.

Another option: wait until your do visit a doctor for some other reason, and then bring this up with the doc in the privacy of the exam room. Again, you might have the printed out question and answers with you to show him.

If I was the doc I'd try you on a low dose of alprazolam, like 0.125 mg or 0.25 mg per day. But I'm not the doc. If you do get prescribed something, my advice is to stick to the recommended dosage carefully. You'll hear about people taking much higher doses of benzodiazepines for kicks, but if you do that the lower dosages will lose their effectiveness, and then you've got a big problem when the pills run out early. It's a very helpful drug at the proper dosages.

Answer 3

See anxiety treatments, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on page 6, and take the quiz. Set yourself a fixed limit for worrying about any particular subject, (say; 15 minutes) after which, resolve firmly to refuse to even consider that subject again on that day: realise and accept that to do otherwise would be counterproductive to your mental health, and enjoyment of life. Use the technique for reprogramming negative thoughts and internal monologue (self talk), on pages 2, and 2L, to help you in this, and consider carrying a wide rubber band in your pocket; stretch, and release, as a means of reinforcing it, and speeding up the process, re-pocketing it afterwards. Practise one of the relaxation methods on pages 2, 11, 2c, or 2i, daily, and when needed. Also, give the EFT version for use in public places, (you can claim to have a headache, as you massage your temples, if you like) a good tryout, to see if it helps you. A direct to it is on page 3c, where starred * and pages 2, 2.q and 2.o also refer. Shyness is addressed in section 9.

Answer 4

As a place to start -- go to your school counselor or teacher-adviser and explain your problem. Ask them how to get help with it.

By the way, from your question it appears you are having anxiety about having anxiety. You just need to find someone to coach you through it. We all experience this to some extent. You just need to find a place to start, and a person to start with, helping you to see yourself and others in a different light. Counseling over a period of months might be your goal to accomplish this.

Answer 5

first off yor not crazy 2nd you need to evaluated and then take it from there.tell you parents to make an app with your doctor tell them your not feeling good then once you get talk to the doctor....get it done