How do I let my girlfriend know she needs to loose weight?

Question

When we started going out 2 years ago she was a healthy and good looking 120 pounds....but over time she has gained weight. I'm not sure how much she weighs but she is definitely around like 180 pounds now....she stopped working out, and she just eats whatever now. We don't live together or anything, but we've been going out for 2 years, and I love her a lot but cannot see myself marrying her....I know it sounds bad, but I take such good care of myself physically, and I eat well.....I don't understand what happened to her? What should I do? I'm not that physically attracted to her as much as I used to be....I stopped having sex as often....

comon peeps this has nothing to do with being "shallow"

Answer 1

Yes, I agree do not marry her. Or anyone else for that matter. And pray that karma doesn't send you into a disfiguring accident that causes the next lady to leave you.

Answer 2

i could call you shallow, sure but that would be hypocritical. The majority of the world bases alot of things upon looks and such so im fine with the question.

That aside, im not sure there would be an easy way to let her know. Maybe encourage her to go for a walk in the mornings with you? or suggest some health risks she make pose if she continues gaining weight.

Other than that there is the bluntly telling her, but depending on her personality she may not take it well.

Answer 3

this is a pretty tough one - women and weight have a really horrible relationship!
I think you should encourage your girlfriend to get 'healthy', rather than encourage her to lose weight, because that might not go down too well! Try to be subtle - get her to be more active by doing activities with her...join a gym together, go for walks, bike rides etc - she'll get a passion for exercise that way. And as for foods, try to encourage her to eat healthy as well.
It's important that as you do encourage her to get healthy again you also make her feel positive about herself.....women can feel that they are worthless if they don't have the perfect body - which really takes away from other achievements. She should feel happy that she is in a relationship, and she should be proud of herself for things other than her physical appearance. Make her feel loved regardless of her weight while encouraging her to make healthy choices. Don't expect her to be perfect, it's one thing to want her to be healthy, but I'm hoping that it isn't all about physical appearance - because there are more important things in life.
Hope this helps, and good luck.

Answer 4

Then I say you do not truly love her for herself. What counts is on the inside. But it seems you only care about the exterior. I am sure she knows what she looks like. Maybe she is depressed being with someone so conceited as yourself. If you are no longer attracted to her then you should tell her because I am sure there is someone out there that will really love her no matter how big she is. Quit wasting her time. Because once she gets rid of you she will lose the weight. Women are like that whenever they get a divorce or break-up with someone. She will do it to attracted a better man. True love is unconditional.

Answer 5

These answers suck. Why is everyone getting mad cuz you dont want your girlfriend to be fat? Anyway. She might just not have really noticed a whole lot. or maybe because u haven't said anything, she thinks its ok. Just start encouraging her to eat better and work out. maybe not directly, but say something like "gosh eating junk all the time just makes me feel gross/guilty/wierd." something passive like that, but build it into a conversation. maybe she'll agree with you and you can just say hey lets eat healthy together and start goin to the gym. somethin like that.

Answer 6

Homeboy i'd say to move on then i ain't sayin u shallow yet u do come off as it but hell looks do mean alot but shouldn't if your in love my girl looks like shakira n keeps tryna loose more weight women n weight are crazy if all else fails man work her out literally trust me it might help go on dates doin stuff that burns fats or invite her for dinner n cook healthy stuff but if i were u i'd move on man cause what happenes if she neva gets those looks back

Answer 7

Take her along with you to workout. It's always motivating to have someone to workout. And suggest that you all should eat a little healthier b/c when swimsuit season come around you want her to be right. (Every woman wants to be perfect in a two-piece). Be gentle. Also, have you talked to her, she may be depressed or down about something. Good Luck. Hope this has helped.

Answer 8

I've lost 5 kilos in my first week. It's my 10th day and I have included salad with some protein (eg. egg/ lean chicken) as you suggested. After 4 years of trying, the fat is finally coming off. It truly feels like magic!

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Answer 9

Take her to the beach or a pool. If she says that she doesn't feel comfortable, say she looks great how she is. Always stay on her side, if you want to stay with her. When she goes, she will realize it would be good to get back into shape, and you can help her with it. She needs to be the one to make the decision, or it will never happen.

Answer 10

buy her a gym member ship for her b-day and tell her its a way for u guys to spend more time with eachother in a more fun matter

or u can just put the heater on in the room u guys make love in and go at it for long hours at a time

Answer 11

then just eat fruit and healthy things together & maybe she will eat it as well..and then maybe so some exercise and convince, convince, convince is the way to go..so do it for a few weeks..or eat special K together..it might help..