so yeah im dating this one guy and one of my best friend which is a guy came up to me and said that he really liked me. and i was shocked. and yeah i kind of like him. but im already dating someone. so what do i do?
2007-11-29 16:06:42 · 30 answers · asked by sportgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
how long have you been dating the guy you're dating now? because if its not long then dump him. Tell him, you're going in different directions so it'll be easy on him. And then get to work on your best friend. If you've been dating the guy for a long time...you still have to check your feelings for your best friend, so it might be time to break up with that other guy anyway. Good luck. And way to go best friend.
2007-11-29 16:14:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well - if you are hapy with your present guy, just politely tell the new admirer, thanks- I 'm flattered, but involved with someone right now, where flirting like this would not be considered cool.
If you want to get to know the new guy -- that another can of worms to open. You gotta start by being honest with yourself and your present guy.
what i would do? not that i was asked =--- hehe -- i would do option 1, but leave it as a politely "open and friendly" friendship with the new admirer, if he likes you -- he ain't goin nowhere - too far anyway -- and if he does -- that;s ok too, all the guys want you when yo have a guy already. Believe, there willbe more that come along just the ame way.The same thing happens in the job market -- everyone wants to hire you when you have a job you like, if you were to be unemployed - no one would hire you. see the similarity?
moral of the story --
somebody always wants someone else's stuff - get it?
just sit tight there sista -- no worries, enjoy Xmas with your regular guy, and wish your new friend a Very Merry w/ a little candy cane and a kiss on the cheek!
flirty - flirt -- yeah - i know - but youre young -- have fun with it!
2007-11-29 16:16:06 · answer #2 · answered by shannonzeecannon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol, if you "kind of" like this other guy, it seems to me that the relationship you are already in...is in trouble. You wouldn't be liking someone else in any way, fashion, or form if you weren't already having problems and giving your eyes a reason to wonder elsewhere. My advice would be to break it off with your boyfriend softly and just have some alone time, talking to the other guy innocently to start with. If he is already a friend, he knows you best and he may be just what you need. good luck
2007-11-29 16:11:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him right now you are dating someone else, but maybe if you are free some other time.
If you have to choose then answer these questions:
Who makes you laugh more?
If you could spend your last day with one who would it be?
Who would you want to meet the first thing at school?
Who makes you feel better when you're with them, and is nicer?
Whoever you answer for all those questions, or the majority of them is probably the guy you should be with.
2007-11-29 16:12:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you think its strange that your friend is only telling you this now? Why did he wait until you were dating someone to come clean about his feelings for you? Chances are that part of it is just jealousy - now that he sees you with someone else, he's as much jealous as anything. If you break up with the guy you are currently with, that jealousy might fade. Just one thought.
That's not to say that his feelings aren't real though. I have been in the standpoint where I had feelings for one of my best friends, and it is an extremely tough one - you have to choose between letting the other person know how you feel and the possibility of being rejected, or just holding your feelings in. To me, the possibility of losing one of my best friends was too much for me. So keep that in mind while thinking about this situation - it wasn't easy for him to come clean with his feelings!
That said...as far as what to do? Someone else said that if you aren't careful, you could lose both of them, and they were exactly right. The best thing to do is to be honest with both of them...if you aren't seriously dating the other guy, maybe you could casually date both guys and just kinda feel things out. Your heart will tell you. Who gives you butterflies?
2007-11-29 16:31:20 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If dating is not the same as getting physical, i see no reason why not. Otherwise it is better to step back a little and tell him that you are dating someone at the moment and that it would not be fair to all concerned.
2007-11-29 16:19:36 · answer #6 · answered by seeker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to decide which one you like more and go with that one.
If you can't decide then I sugest staying with the guy you're currently dating, just don't be all lovey dovey in front of your friend so it doesn't hurt him. Then later if the relationship doesn't work out, you can try going out with your friend. Just keep in mind that dating a friend tends to ruin that friendship if the relationship goes bad.
2007-11-29 16:12:01 · answer #7 · answered by Brandy N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not consult someone who knows what you want? Now, who could that be? You, perhaps?
Who do you want to date? Do you want to date both of them? You don't have to be in an exclusive relationship if you aren't ready for that. Just be sure you are honest with both guys about how you feel and what you are doing. You get your choice and they get theirs.
2007-11-29 16:11:40 · answer #8 · answered by treebird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, the same thing happened to me, and I ended up breaking up with him for my best guy friend, only because I knew that my best guy friend was a good guy.
Follow your heart.
2007-11-29 16:09:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be careful, you could lose them both. Be nice to both and say that you cannot right now but somewhere later on it might be possible. I think a guy who does not understand your sense of loyalty is not worth having. Good Luck
2007-11-29 16:10:15 · answer #10 · answered by bigjohn B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋