my nehbors doughter is RUNNING WILD she is 13--Bad PROBLEMS - how to fix????

Question

I am at home allot and been gettin to no the nehbors allot better becous I started the nehborhood watch program. So now we are all buddy buddy and the lady next door (TRISH) has a doughter who is 13. She has been running WILD ever sinse I moved out here at a young age. The girls name is Cassiy. She is REALLY pretty and looks ilke she is aighteen. Shes really is getting wild and there is nothing her mom can do about it. Men pick her up at night time and she dosnt get back till the morning/afternoon/next day and she holds it to her mom sayin "YOU HAD ME WHEN YOU WERE 12 SO YOU SHOULDNT BE TALKING" She came to me caus I am understanding and not judjmental at all wich is one really good thing about me. She told me the other day that she has an STD and her private is burning. She was crying and now I think she feels bad for her reactions? Why is she rebelling like this???? Plus she says she has ben with allot of men that are over 18 and she dosnt remember the last time she had a period.

she is thinking maybe 2 months. well now I cant get her to leave my couch. She said she went to the doctor regarding her problem and she denies ever telling me that. How do I get her to leave this is too much for me to handle. I alreayd have my own problems.

eighteen*

she needs major help I feel so bad....

also I dont want to catch her stds....

Answer 1

You're absolutely right in saying that she needs major help. The question is, who's responsible for helping her? Is it you or is it Trish? Have you talked to Trish about her daughter's behavior? If Trish actually did have this girl when she was 12, that pretty much answers your other questions.

It sounds like Trish and Cassiy both need some help. Your options are 1) you can call the police and have her taken out of your home, 2) you can call Child Protective Services who will put her in foster care, 3) you can talk to Trish and tell her to come and get her daughter, 4) you can try to help her.

You have your own problems to deal with. My impression is that because you're understanding and non-judgemental you often get taken advantage of. You're the only one who can answer your question. If you feel you can help this girl and are willing to put yourself out to do that, then help her. That may mean you talk to a counselor or contact a help line where you can get the best advice on what to do. The other options put the responsibility back where it belongs. On the girl's mother.

If the mother is also a child with no parenting skills, which is what it sounds like, the Child Protective Service may be the best option. They will put Cassiy into foster care and they will be able to engineer things where the mother is required to get some help in learning how to be a better mother. (At least that's the theory.)

Think about what feels right to you. Put yourself first and do what you need to. Cassiy is not your child and you are not responsible for her well-being. She would benefit from having a caring adult take her under their wing but does that adult have to be you? Only you can answer that one.

Answer 2

Call her mom to come over and the 3 of you talk. If Cassie still refuses to go or the mom will not come, you need to involve the police.
This is neglect of a minor by her mother. She needs medical attention immediately and only her mom can sign for it as she is a minor. She may have more than 1 STD and is possibly pregnant.
Why is she rebelling? For attention, for someone to say no and give her consequences, for her mom to show she is a parent. Her mom may not be capable of this if she was never shown how.
You can be supportive of them both without taking on the problems as your own.

Answer 3

Boy o boy.
You seem to need as much help as they, especially with your spelling and grammar.
Even though you have an orange label you do not seem to have much love for correct English, do you?
Anyway, get mom and daughter to a Social Welfare Officer somewhere near your trailer park.
They usually know the correct legal channels to work through to sort these people out

Answer 4

There is really nothing you can do for this kid except inform her mother of what is going on.and try to let her mother handle the situation from there and hopefully get this girl some much needed counseling and help from a physician.