My sister-in-law’s family insisted my brother become Catholic before marrying. She did not attend church whereas my brother did. She insisted that being the wife, it was more important to appease her parents. Our parents did not want to add stress and therefore said nothing.
Now their son is marrying and his fiancée’s parents want him to follow their religion. My sister-in-law in livid and feels this is not right.
I cannot imagine she sees no connection or twist of fate here (she is very well educated), so how can someone be such a hypocrite and have the nerve to complain to the very people he/she did the same thing to previously?
2007-11-29 15:24:33 · 7 answers · asked by Traveler 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This is one you back away from. Don't throw gasoline on the fire. Yes, she's being a hypocrit, but also upset her son is leaving the faith.
You have nothing in this........if anyone can open their mouth it is your brother, not you! And about all your brother can say is, "I'm sorry he's leaving the faith.........I was expected to convert, but did so happily."
Back off, seriously.
2007-11-29 15:34:42 · answer #1 · answered by fluffernut 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all she's not the one that has had to change religions is she? Why doesn't someone just bring up the fact that your brother had to become Catholic before he married so why is she so upset. Maybe that will make her think. She may be upset about the religion that her son is being asked to convert to, not the fact that he is being asked to convert. She may not see why anyone would not want to belong to the Catholic church. I don't see anything wrong with bringing the subject up and if it causes an argument then you'll know not to bring it up again. It could be touchy though depending on how close your family is, she may tell you to mind your own business. If she does then just do it.
2007-11-29 23:38:21 · answer #2 · answered by thisaintall07 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She must obviously be blind to the fact that she is a hypocrite,the next time she wants to start an agrument with you tell her exactly what you wrote down here.No matter how much she agrues she is still going to be wrong,if she still decides to act in this matter just walk away from her and that argument.
2007-11-30 03:49:27 · answer #3 · answered by demonfirelife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really don't have to say much of anything. Just ask her to explain how the two scenarios are different. If she stops to think about it, hopefully she'll see what you're seeing. If not, just tell her "I'm sorry, I can't agree with you" and walk away. She can't start a fight with you unless you participate.
2007-11-29 23:33:47 · answer #4 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just talk to your nephew if you think it's important enough
you usually change some one in a situation like this with confrontation, for the most part she's responsible for her own heart and you for yours
just be honest, calm and refuse to fight
2007-11-29 23:35:01 · answer #5 · answered by Irenea 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What can you say? Try....Your son is an adult who will do things in his life that you will not agree with. It is not your place now to tell him he is right or wrong, it is your place to help him up if he falls or congratulate him if he succeeds.
Parents bring their children up, then let their adults go.
2007-11-29 23:32:55 · answer #6 · answered by Mavrik 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to say anything..... fate is happening as we speak...
2007-11-29 23:33:27 · answer #7 · answered by gabe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋