Help! Should I be friends?

Question

I dated a guy for six months -- he was smart,sexy, funny, sweet at first but quickly became detached, selfish and verbally abusive (disguised as jokes). He stopped wanting to have sex, wanting to go away or spend time alone. So I took a hint, said let's end it -- he agreed and I was sad but relieved. We e-mailed briefly for about a month and one day he asked to meet up . He said he wanted to try again, thet he took me for granted. I agreed with hesitation, because I had been hurt before. Five days later, he showed up at my apt with a bag of my clothes and said "I am selfish and immature , and I know it sounds pathetic but I can't give you what you need." I lost it. I cried like a baby -- he left. He said he really wants to be friends (we were friends first) I can't imagine not having him in my life, but part of me thinks he doesn't deserve my friendship. What would you do? Is it possible to be his friend now -- its been the most painful thing ever because I was in love.

Answer 1

I would keep him out of my life he seems very heartless

but the choice is up to yours but he might break your heart again

Answer 2

No,Friend is a deeper word than most people give it credit for and if he is too selfish to be a good boy friend he is too selfish to be a good friend. It sounds like he'll end up hurting you from what ever position you give him in your life
and sounds like you already know that
remember, you can be kind to someone without being friends and letting in close enough to do damage

Answer 3

Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

Answer 4

think from ur heart n not from ur brain ......
if u think he is a nice person den u shud give him another chance.... but if u seriously think he hurt u alot..den leave him..
but after reading wt u hve ritten i ges u shud give him a a chance!!!rest is all upto u

Answer 5

aw... you pore girl. he doesn't deserve your friendship move on it sounds like he wasn't done hurting you. don't let him back into your life