My ex broke up with me 2 months ago to sort out college stuff, his feelings changed and due to our busy schedules we were seeing less and less of each other which caused arguing. He wants to try again and Im all for it but not now. I just am very stressed with college, working 2 part time jobs now and its just going to be the same arguments if we try now. However I dont want him to think I am throwing his reason from 2 months ago back into his face because Im not. I would love to be friends and see how things go but I dont want him to think he has to wait for me if he finds someone new. I love him but its not the right time as bad as that sounds...What do I do?
2007-11-29 14:36:32 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honesty is the best policy. If he has a good brain, he will realize that what you are saying is right (based on what you mentioned here in the question) and that time as friends can lead to a better relationship later on down the road. Good luck.
2007-11-29 14:39:28 · answer #1 · answered by Unforgiven Shadow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not "in love" with him or it wouldn't matter how busy you got, he just simply would be a part of your life. There's a difference in caring for people, even to a great degree, and being in love with them and they are an integral part of your life that makes all the rest of it come together and work.
Admit that you do not have strong enough feelings for this person to set aside your time for him, and let him, and let yourself move on. There's nothing wrong or judgmental about having stronger feelings about your goals and your studies and your life as it is. Just don't fool yourself into believing that the relationship is more than it is or ever could be. If it's meant to be, you'll both pick it back up at a later time. But do each other a big favor and "let go".
2007-11-29 22:42:14 · answer #2 · answered by autumlovr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. i know what you mean me and my ex are facing kinda the same problems....
the only advice i can give you is to set him off straight and to not lead him on... honesty is the key..
it might hurt but its worth it in the end. your busy.. coleege and 2 part jobs WOW/.. a relationship is not in your to do list and he should understand that... if its really love and if you guys are meant to be then time is not a factor.. he will be able to wait and you gusy will go out in the future..
just talk to him tell him that you wanna try but theres to much in your plate right now and you cant have a relationship at the moment. tell him that you wanna focuse in your school and work first and if you guys can be frens for now and see how it goes.. if it goes good then you can move into a relationship...
2007-11-29 22:42:52 · answer #3 · answered by kaycee says; 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T LET HIM SLIP AWAY!!! If he feels they way you do... he'll understand. Take it slow, but remember he's waiting for you, even if you tell him not to. Just don't take too long to give him another try, because if you can't make time for him eventually, then you need to re-evaluate the way you feel about him. Keep the relationship light and not too stressful, that should help with all the arguments. It's always worth a try.
2007-11-29 22:46:23 · answer #4 · answered by Stevo C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty! Just pour out to him what really are your racing thoughts about your feelings towards him..he will understand..it is better to tell him than deceiving yourself and him, when you cant be happy in arelationship anymore then thebest way is tot alk about it...meanwhile you have to convince him it is not about another love..give him the reasons and maybe he can even help you rekindle the relationship..I suppose you need a space and time to reflect more about you and him..and it is just but fair to allow him enter into your feelings and share your worries and depressions about the whole issue ok???/good luck!
2007-11-29 22:42:32 · answer #5 · answered by E@rthGoddess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no there is never a bad time for love. i think you are on the right track. give him time he will come back and you will see more and more of him than you did before sometimes we have things we have to sort out it seems you both do and did so just let it flow.
2007-11-29 22:44:16 · answer #6 · answered by nash w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love isn't always on time. But, it's also true that if it's meant to be, it will be. So, whether you get back together now or when you graduate college or whenever, if it's meant to be, it will happen.
2007-11-29 22:40:26 · answer #7 · answered by First Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah star crossed.
Sounds like you both just have higher priorities. Just leave things open and connect again in a few months. Don't force it.
2007-11-29 22:39:45 · answer #8 · answered by Wine and Window Guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no theres never a bad time for love!! okay just be his friend for a little while and then get back 2gether later when its more convenient for you guys. you have plenty of time, right?
2007-11-29 22:45:57 · answer #9 · answered by Laura14 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You come first so if it's not the right time, it's not the right time so he has to accept that and let you go.
2007-11-29 22:40:44 · answer #10 · answered by Arctic Flame 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋