how do i get over my child's death and make it thru this time of the year?

Answer 1

i am so sorry .my best friend lost her son 2 months ago gun down over 10 dollars he was 20 years the his trial is set for wed Nov 5 she has good days and bad she prays daily and all day thanking god for the years she was allowed to have him knowing he was a loaned from GOD and he was ready for him back . saying i cant say i know how you feel because i don't my kids are still living i can only say i can imagine my pray that GOD will strenghten you thru these trying time may the LORD KEEP YOU GOD BLESS

Answer 2

First off, please accept my sympathies. It is so hard to deal with the loss of a child. I lost my infant son 12 years ago and I still think about him almost every day. At first I felt numb, then as the weeks wore on I felt like I had been shot through by a cannon and only the outside edges of my body were left. As the years have passed, the raw edges have kind of curled in and softened. The hole will always be there, but it becomes smaller although it never totally closes. The holidays are really hard. I can tell you that focusing on making other people happy is the way I get through them. I will always miss him and think about the person he might have become. You just have to keep in mind that this wasn't something that you chose to happen. We just have to accept that everyone has pain in their lives and some of us have more than others. The worst has already happened to you and you are still here. All you can do is try to make it easier for someone else, and take some comfort from that.

Answer 3

You make the most special hand made decoration you can invent and you display it poudly on your table, as a memorial and everytime you walk by you fuss over it and smile at all the wonderful memories you hold and you never ever let go because you never ever have to. So create some special tree or arrangement or anything you like and make it into some special creation you can sit and admire and know your child is still with you always.

God Bless you and your child and family and I am sorry for your horrific loss. They are always with you, add them to your celebration, don't try to have it without them. Then it won't seem so glumy. You miss them and thats ok, so make a little something special to represent them and to show you haven't forgotten. You will just feel a bit better knowing its there right in sight and close by to fuss with and the very special person it represents.

Answer 4

I am so sorry for your loss. I wish I could give you a hug. My thoughts are that you NEVER get over the death of a loved one. Embrace her and keep her close to you. See her in the things that she liked. (You don't give a gender or age. I have daughters so that's where I come from) My mother loved the red cardnal birds. My daughter thinks of mother every time she sees one of the birds. I know that this is going to sound pretty strange, but it works. I talk to my mom and dad often. When there's something happening that I need help with or that they would have liked, I talk to them about it....or fuss 'cause they're not here to help me. Don't try to put your child in a space somewhere !! Leave her free to play in the rainbows and laugh at the butterflies.......Peace be with you.

Answer 5

There are support groups for bereaved parents. Perhaps you can find one in your area.
I have not lost a child, but have lost a brother. Sometimes it helps me to light a memorial candle (sold in the kosher section of the supermarket) that burns for 24 hours. That way, no matter what else I am doing I can silently symbolically acknowledge that part that is mourning.

Wishing you peace. You are not alone; the holidays are painful for many and it is okay to be less than cheery.

Answer 6

You never get over a childs death but you can just remember what they would like this time of year. I lost a close brother at Christmas time and I just remember how much he loved this time of year and it helps me get through. Think happy thoughts.

Answer 7

My sympathy to you!! Remember your child by giving to a less fortunate child that's lost a parent. I think all that love that you have can make some child very, very happy. buy some gifts and wrap them then take them to a foster home or adoption agency the satisfaction alone should make you feel better that your giving to someone that may have losted someone beautiful also then you can start the healing process for yourself by asking God to help you make it each and everyday. there is a book in bible by the name of Job he lost everything and all his children even his friends turned their backs on him but God blessed him several times over because he rested his life in Gods hand. I will also pray for strength

Answer 8

I'm so sorry to hear that you lost your child. I wish there was something I could do for you. My prayers go out to you and your family. If you have someone you're close to, then hold them and cry on their shoulder. Crying helps you feel better.

Answer 9

That's horrible. I'm sorry for you. Do you have friends and family to be with? Do you believe in God? If so, you could be angry at him. That's ok. God can take your anger, and he's with you while you're angry.

Once again, I'm sorry. Tears are okay. Throwing things is okay (but not at others). Being held by someone is okay. Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 10

I dont think as a parent you would ever get over it. but if you have other children you try and be strong for them and beleive
there in a better place with no pain and suffer god bless