he was a drunk a stupid drunk that didnt even want to know his own daughter he sat there in drunk his way in died of cancer in had a tuma in his head in didnt even care
2007-11-29 13:28:27 · 6 answers · asked by precious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
alcoholics and drug addicts, don't make wise choices because they are under the influnce of something that controls them.
had he been in your life, he could have destroyed you along with him. who he was, what he did or did not do, does not define who you are.
you are your own person, yeah it would be great to have your father, but the man that died was no longer him.he died a long time ago when the alcohol took over.
maybe he did want to know you, but knew because of his problem that he would only bring you grief. and that in itself
would have been an act of love, bizare as it may sound.
grieve if you can, but don't keep carrying this inside you.
move forward and live the life he couldn't. you made it this far without him...you are strong.
2007-11-29 13:46:36 · answer #1 · answered by A*MUSE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do have a dad. You just aren't looking in the right place. Maybe you are not ready and thats okay and maybe you are not a believer and thats okay too, but you have a loving father in Heaven who will never leave you and will always be there to comfort and guide you. Just ask God to be a part of your life and He will never leave.
I am sorry you got the short end of the stick for an earthly dad. A lot of us do. Try and remember my dear this man had a huge problem with drinking and without help he was never going to be able to care about anyone. He couldn't even care for himself. That didn't mean he didn't love you, he just couldn't be around you because of all the guilt and shame he carried knowing what he did to his own child.
Do not let this become the focus of your entire life. Allow this to become a learning experience. Do not start drinking. The disease is in your genes. Make something wonderful of yourself and share your story.
2007-11-29 13:46:59 · answer #2 · answered by billies35 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry hon.Thank GOD for the good people in your life that loved you, and the fact you have done so much as far as an education and job, you have done well.I am sure if he had straightened up he would be proud of you,I know the rest of your family is and I am that you endured the hardships you have and have turned out so well.Dont center your life around this tragedy hon, but put it behind you.You are NOT alone and everything will be ok.
2007-11-29 13:35:21 · answer #3 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My words to you is pay attention to your self. Take care of your self. You deserve to be at the top of your list. My father was a drunk too. It took me so long to learn I deserve to be good to my self and move on. I did nothing wrong he did and well things happen and that is a desion he made for him self. There is a good book out there for you it is called "get out of that Pit by Beth Moore. An excellent web site Discovery-training.org because you deserve it. You are still going to have to deal with your anger towards him so let it out.
2007-11-29 13:44:12 · answer #4 · answered by cece_curtis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry that happened.
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whats the question?
2007-11-29 13:31:39 · answer #5 · answered by Cutie Patootie. ™ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tragic... what's your question?
2007-11-29 13:33:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋