MY Bf still likes his Ex. i know it because i logged onto his myspace, and read his messages he sent her he said that she was hotter than me, and he still likes her "alittle" but he doesnt know if he should have asked her out. then he asked her "why did you break up with me?" when i read these messages i got soo crushed, i was starting to trust him but now i don't believe in anything he says. i know she still likes him too. i don't know if i should break up with him, because i'm scared she will go out with him. and that would hurt me even more, yeah i'll admit she is pretty, and she dresses preppy and i dress kinda tom-boyish..i feel like shes better than me. I feel bad because she is so outging and has a lot of friends, i think he likes her more than he likes me,she is also really nice to me even though i am kinda mean to her. i always catch him looking at her at lunch. then again i think he likes me more than her because if he liked her more he would have dumped me already, but then i think he just feels sorry for me. what should i do? i like him too much to dump him..do you think he really likes me??
2007-11-29 13:20:29 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
talk to him about this and ask him if he really likes her more than you. I think he's confused right now. I think that he still likes his ex more than you since the comments you told us. so I think that you should talk to him.
-HeartBrokenForever (Diane N)
2007-11-29 13:26:19 · answer #1 · answered by ♫Di [Pro-Love, Anti-Hate]♫ 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
He likes you, but he is wrong for comparing you to her. He shouldn't even be talking to her still. If he feels as if talking to her is worth ruining your relationship over, (since you can log in on his account, it must mean he's given you his password, right?) then they deserve each other. You don't deserve that kind of treatment. He's totally taking you for granted. I would break up because after knowing what you know (something like that) it might not ever be able to be the same. And it doesn't sound like you two love each other yet so I'd say it would be easier to make a decision like this now than later. Just because he hasn't dumped you doesn't mean he likes you more. He likes you, but he's being stupid about it. He has a great girl already and he can't figure out what he wants?! He'll realize later on what he's missing. I'd say let it go 'cause this guy isn't mature enough for you, but good luck in whatever you choose. =]
2007-11-29 13:26:41 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen. This is epic.
One
He's a guy. So he's confused. Just let him know that you care for him A LOT, and that you're the one he wants. This does not involve sex. If that's all he wants when you show you care he's not worth it.
Two.
The odds that he is cheating on you with this girl is probably pretty high. I would watch him closely. It may explain why the other girl is so nice to you.
Three.
The fact that you read his myspace messages shows just how much you really trust him. If you're going to be in a relationship. You need to show respect of privacy. Yet, this could also mean he wanted you to see the messages so that you will break it off. Not him.
Good luck.
2007-11-29 13:30:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its really tuff when something like this comes up.
but you have to do what feels right to you.
you may like him a whole lot, but if you think (and have reason to think) that he likes his ex (even alittle) i wouldn't risk it, it will hurt way more if he cheats on you or you guys stay happy for awhile then break up. its easier if you do it now.
you shouldn't stay with someone who isn't fully committed to you. even if you guys are still in school, you can find someone better trust me. i went through a very similar thing when i was in high school ( my guy cheated on me on my birthday! =[ ) and i found a guy that was 10 times better. it took about 6 months and i was depressed at first but after wards i didn't even know why i was sad over him. lifes too short to waste your time on people who cant commit to you fully.
another thing is, become more confident, build your self esteem, i bet you just think this girl is "better than you" i thought the same with the girl my ex liked. your probably wayyy better than her and he'll realize it later. try not to think negative thoughts about your self, and dont compare yourself to others either. (someone told me once that you could changed everything on your body exactly how you wanted it and you would still see someone who you would think was better than you) that helped me alot when i thought others were "better".
keep your head up. and dont waste your time on him.
good luck =]
2007-11-29 13:34:37 · answer #4 · answered by surfingtosaturn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him about how you feel. If you can't trust him, the relationship will not work.
2007-11-29 13:26:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋