I might be pregnant but he doesn't want a child with me.?

Question

First of all you must understand me, I'm 24, I've had two children by a piece of crap for a father, 3 abortions a miscarriage and a 5 month old by another piece of crap. always thought marriage was bogus. but I would marry this guy!!! I respect people and their opinion. I don't complian much about anything.

now understand my boyfriend.
he's 31. we live together half the time the other half he leaves for five weeks 4 work. hes got a great job, nice car ,no kids
plays xbox 360 all day and owns two 500 gigs of music. doesn't want children together because I've already got three. doesn't want to get married ever.

understandable!!
but said he would share his last name and we could have a have a promise ceremony. that's cool too. he also wants me to move to Arizona if he gets a job offer in Cali. But he says he only sees me in his future and no kids. what???

I really love him and supposebly he says he does too.
what should I do?

Answer 1

No doubt about it kids come first. My friend's mother abandoned her and her sister to go be with her boyfriend, and my friend was messed up for life. He can't possibly love you if he doesn't love your kids. Dump him. You will find someone else.

Answer 2

Have you tried IUD to prevent.
Also if you are already pregnant give this child up for adoption there are lots of people out there that want a baby. What are you going to do about the other 2 kids does he see them in his future?

Answer 3

you are only 24 and have been pregnant 7 or 8 times??

there is a word for people like you..and its not good....

you need to do some serious growing up and have time WITHOUT a man... seems to me you are extremely needy of being with a guy.. (as you mention you WILLINGLY slept with two men who were crap....) why would somebody with high self esteme do that??
answer: they wouldnt...
no person with decent self esteme would EVER be with a guy they refer to as crap..

any woman with self respect would have had her tubes tied after 2 kids... and certainly wouldnt be having so many abortions... have you not heard of "birth control?"

you dont love the guy.. you simply think you NEED a guy...

you have plenty of kids.. who can blame the guy for not wanting kids...
he is obviously suggesting you get rid of the 3 you already have.. so if he is worth that much to you then you will AND you will get your tubes tied...

Answer 4

He should have thought of that before he slept with you. He cares about no one but himself. The kids should come first no doubt. Kick him to the curb. Sounds like he's looking for a way out anyhow.

Answer 5

you dug your own grave *ahem* "lady"

regardless of what you do now, after the fetus/baby is out of you, get yourself on some long term birth control (pill and iud)

the guy says he doesn't want kids, but you already have three. of course he doesn't want to add another mistake to the mix. be glad he's stuck around this long.

Answer 6

well he should understand that when he got into the relationship that you had children and he cant have with out them....unless he means he wants you and the children but no more children....that is understandable...some people just dont want children...ou already have 3 and im sure he would rather it stay that way.

Answer 7

Oh my God you poor thing take a test before you jump the gun worrying but really look at your situation you only live once and you want to be happy take care of your self and your children

Answer 8

wELL, HAVE YOU EVER HEARD OF BIRTH CONTROL?? THEY HAVE THAT AND IT SOUNDS LIKE THAT IS SOMETHING YOU MIGHT WANT TO CONSIDER VERY STRONGLY. IF YOU HAVE HAD 8 PREGNANCIES AND YOU ARE 24, THEN YOU REALLY SHOULD GET SOME HELP. OBVIOUSLY HE IS NOT WANTING CHILDREN FOR A REASON....YOU HAVE 3 ALREADY- AND THAT INCLUDES A 5 MONTH OLD!! WHAT ARE YOU THINKING?!?!?!?!

Answer 9

Wow...