Please help with some relationship advice. thanks?

Question

I know my boyfriend is going to propose to me on Christmas because my sister told. It is supose to be a surprise, but I am not ready I am still young 22 years old, finishing up school, and we have only dated 6 months. What signs can I give him before he proposes to me? I don't want Christmas to come and ruin his Christmas.

Answer 1

Rent a movie where someones getting married and comment on it on how you feel about marriage right now with him ofcourse. Be sweet about it but be firm. Dont turn it into a joke or else he'll think youre just blabbing away from random thoughts and he wont take you seriously. Its ok. 22 is understandable to not be ready yet.

Answer 2

Just let him propose at Christmas and consider a long engagement. You are young but if you're thinking 22 is too young, then you're trying too hard to wriggle out of it. I agree what another poster said about making excuses.

If you don't truly love him, then break up now. If you do love him and see a future, then just stay engaged for 1.5-2 years. There's nothing wrong with that. Just because you're engaged doesn't mean you need to rush to the altar. You've only been together for 6 months, enjoy it and don't feel like you are obligated to marry right away.

EDIT:

For those that think a marriage is equal to being tied down: You're clueless. I am married and in NO way do I feel tied down.

My husband supports my career moves and doesn't try to stop me from making choices that would make me happy. I do the same for him. It's called unconditional love my friends. In a happy, loving, and stable marriage, there is no being tied down. There's respect, support, encouragement, trust, and above all else -- love.

Answer 3

Dear Sara:

I wrote to you several days ago when
you posted about buying a bird & the
impending Marriage Contract Ques!

Here is my feedback again~ below!
Ask your man about the issues I already
addressed! If you are feeling this is NOT
a good idea~ voice it to your man!

Do NOT wait until X'mas!
Do it ASAP! OK?

++++++++++++++++++
WOW!
Congrats Sarah!
You are filled with anticipation!

Do both of you have A Realistic Marketable
Job Skill, to sustain a positive future
together? Higher Ed. Degrees?
This helps assure a successful
Marriage/Business Contract.

Have you dated & known each other
for 4-6 years to build a firm foundation?
Do you have a substantial savings acct?
Own a home? Possess a new car?

Do you plan on seeking out Professional
Pre-Marital Counseling to establish the
perimeters of a mature relationship?
What are your/his "Marching Orders?
Have you considered a Pre-Nup to
protect future assets?

How about planning a family? Will you
wait until you are around 30, so that both
of you can adaquately care for a baby?
What type of BC will you/he utilize?

Have you talked to Clergy?
Addressed what FAITH & Goals
you will seek out together?
What do you EXPECT from your
Business/Marriage Contract?

Remember:
Marriage is Really a
BUSINESS Contract~
Not a Fantasy, Dreamy Love World!

Do you "trust" your Business Partner?
How much in Debt is your future spouse?
Who will Manage your Bills & Business?

Life Is NOT A Dress Rehersal!
This Is The REAL DEAL~ Now!
Are YOU The Best You Can Possibly Be?
No Emotional Baggage to Polute
your future relationship?
ALL possible Issues have been addressed?
How will you pay for the Ceremony
& the HoneyMoon? Where is it?
Do Both of you have a WILL on File?

Sounds like you got the Petco Bird Deal
SOLVED & Down PAT!

What about all the rest of the above?

Good Luck!
Happy Trails!

Answer 4

Ask your sister to talk to him. Tell her not to let him know that you know,but see if she can talk him out of it.
for example...

Brian why don't you wait until after christmas because you have to think about the pros and cons. If she says "NO" then it might ruin Christmas. How about proposing on New Years, then if she says " Yes" it would be a good way to bring in theNew Year.

Just an option

Answer 5

That's hard, but you should really think about it. I have heard so many things about couples who have dated and broken up because the guy proposed and the girl said no without thinking. You have to remember you can be engaged for a long time, you don't have to marry right away, and you can tell you bf that. He probably wouldn't mind, because then he will maybe feel more secure.

Answer 6

It will help if as early as now you give him a hint that you are not ready for settling down. During your dates & conversations you can say in simple way your dreams & plan for the years to come. Tell him that "I think I am seeing my self getting married maybe 5 years from now". If he is sensitive enough he will read the sign there. If ever he did not, then there is no other way but to say it bluntly when the time comes, afterall you can say to him that you've try for him to understand it but he did not. If the love is there, things have a way of working out.

Answer 7

whilst walking in a shop with him, if you see a young mum with a screeming kid you could comment - i dont know how she does it, i really admire her i could never have a kid this young. personally i dont want any sorta commitment like a kid til im married, have a house and a flash car, and theres no way any of thats gonna happen for a good few years... im a careers woman me! << should get the hint or ask so you dont wanna get married any time soon.......so ud have to be prepd for them!

you could get engaged though if you love him enough to but have a long engagement until you are ready?

good luck!

Answer 8

Well, I sure would talk to him about it long before Christmas. You can tell him you want to wait for several years before considering such a permanent relationship as marriage.

Answer 9

Mention your plans for the future, which will let him know you're not ready for marriage: travel, further education, whatever. If he goes ahead and proposes, let him know you care about him, but are not ready for marriage.

Answer 10

I am going to be honest. If just because you are 22 you don't want to marry him, then break up with him because you don't love him and you don't want to spend the rest of your life with him because, if he was right for you it would not matter. you are making excuses just let it go. stop being selfish.