I am married and my step mother doesn't like me what should I do?

Answer 1

What your step mother thinks of you will be the same whether you are married or not. Did you maybe mean "Mother-in-law?"

Win her over by just being you. She is gaining a daughter, not losing her son. Just act normally.

Answer 2

If your step mother doesn't like you it shouldn't matter... You're married and out of the house. If you live with your parents it may be more difficult, make civil until you can be on your own to save your sanity!

My mom was married to someone who really didn't like me or my brothers, he didn't want kids. We were all grown, so not much he could do... He didn't last too long in my moms life!

Good luck! It sucks... I know... I've had 4 step parents!!

Answer 3

Do you mean your mother-in-law? That's usually what you "inherit" when you marry, and it's not unusual for a mother-in-law not to like the woman their son married. In that case, not much you can do but respect her as the mother of your husband. He should inform his mother that unless she can at least treat you civilly, he and you will not be spending much time with her. His first responsibility now is to you.

If you really mean "step-mother"....a woman your dad married after your mother either died or is divorced from your dad....if you are already married and have moved out of your dad's house, then I wouldn't concern myself about it if I were you. If your dad is aware of the situation, and he can't convince her to at least treat you civilly when you are together, then your dad is going to have to make situations when you don't need to be around her if it is bad enough to upset you.

Answer 4

Do you mean your mother in law?
If so, join the club. A lot of us have that trouble.
A. Try not to take it personally. Older ppl have trouble adjusting. She's used to being first in her sons? life.
B. If you understand her motive as jealousy and insecurity it helps to deal with it. A bit.
C. When you talk through your boundaries with your spouse, try to keep in mind that this is someone he loves. However, he should not allow her to interfere in your home. You should come first now.
D. If you don't expect her to like you, it helps. It's that shock when she doesn't that is the worst.
E. Treat her like you would someone you work with. As polite as possible, but not allowing put downs or her to try to sabotage your marital relationship.
F. Do try to give her sincere compliments. She must do somthing well. But only sincere ones, and not too often.
Try to see the 'loving parent' side of her.

Answer 5

Your step mother or mother in law? If it's your step mother, ask your Dad what the problem is. If it is the mother in law, ask your husband the same.

Answer 6

Your step mother? Do you mean your mother in law? I would try to smarten yourself up, and dont be fake but genuinly try to find out what you have in common and make nice.

Answer 7

Do you mean your Mother in Law? If so there isn't much you can do but be nice to her and treat her son well an hopefully she will come around.

Answer 8

Uh, could your be a little more forthcoming?

Why do you feel like she dosn't like you?

I had a step parent after I was grown and married and I would like to help, but more info would help.

Answer 9

If you have given it a fair chance and she still shows dislike, then that's the way it is. Be sure you continue a relationship with your father no matter how she feels toward you. This is rather common with second marriages and children.

Answer 10

Do you mean your mother-in-law? Just try to get along, if she doesn't like you, maybe she'll get over it with time. What does your spouse think about the situation?