I went 2 the doctor a few months ago because I had been feeling horrible for a few months and i have gained a lot of weight it turned out I was 14 weeks pregnant. we had a family meeting today and told my 3 step children and my only daughter there would soon b a new baby girl in the family and she would be named Rebecka Rose and my step kids seemed extremely excited but my daughter started to cry and she screamed at me saying she had already sacrificed so much for me and that now I was betraying her. She said she wished her father had gotten custody even though he's a horrible man and hes staying in town for a while. My new daughter is supposed to born next month! Now I'm think that this baby was a mistake. I'm now torn and sad. What should I do?
2007-11-29 12:45:40 · 4 answers · asked by Eliana 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I had another baby when my daughter was 20. Same thing...it was frightening to her. I let her help pick out clothes, come with us while she was born and have kept her close and involved. She is almost 30 and she loves her little sister like there is no other. It is reciprocated. Give it time, it is a shock.
2007-11-29 12:55:48 · answer #1 · answered by Ali C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,of course your daughter is going to have a hard time dealing with it.However,once the baby is born and she realizes she isn't going to give up any of your love for it,she will change her mind.Just reassure your daughter that you still will be there for her.Your best bet is to spend a little extra time with just her.Take her out for dinner and maybe some shopping for the baby.The more involved you let her be,and this is without making her actually be taking care of the baby,the more likely she will feel comfortable.
2007-11-29 12:52:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter feels threatened by this event and believes you won't love her any more. She didn't mean what she said, she just wanted to hurt your feelings. The baby is not a mistake. Try to spend time with your daughter, alone, and reassure her. If she continues to be selfish and jealous, don't feed into it.
2007-11-29 13:02:30 · answer #3 · answered by beez 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your daughter she isnt being replaced she is your first daughter and will ALWAYS be special in that way!
2007-11-29 13:13:47 · answer #4 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋