Is this relationship healthy, Or should i pack my bags and go?

Question

I've been in a relationship with this guy for real close to a year now. He's 24 and i'm 22... i'm a college sophemore while he graduated and is working as a teacher. he has a real busy schedule. As of yet, he has never said i love you, and at the beginning of the relationship he did tell me that it takes him a while to get attached to people...but after a year, how come he doesn't love me. I on the other hand have said i love you (not many times though) the first time i said it, he acted so happy but never said anything back. Most importantly he took my virginity (in a car) we were mad at one another for like a week and he wanted to talk about our relationship and ended having sex in his car... the day after he took my virginity he did not call to ask if anything was allright ( i was bleeding heavily and hurting)...i texted him later on that day to tell him that i felt he had used me and what not... and then he hurries up and call me saying that he's sorry that he had to prepare for

his best friend birthday party.

One more thing is that he rarely/never calls me, he always text.

we have had sex 3 more times after that, at my house... once after we had made love i talked to him to help him understand how i felt about our relationship and he texted me the day after saying : "you made me realize my faults, now I must take a walk, to find my inner thoughts, and to put them in define blocks."

then one day i told him that i had a dream that he cheated on me and i got jalous so he said... people who are not together cannot be jalous of one another...
he later on apologized and said he did not understand me too well...

let me say too that we started having sex a month ago ... so we had already been together for 9 months

i like what he wants in life... i like that he is motivated and smart... i really love him and i keep hoping he will love me back eventually... tha's why i can't bear to leave the relationship

today i texted him saying that i felt he wants to move away from me and forget what we have... he texted back saying for me to focus in school and apply for scholarships and to not worry about it

Answer 1

He sounds like a jerk - and no one who should be teaching anyone anything. Dump this guy and concentrate on school because when you graduate you will find a whole new world of people and perhaps find the right guy then. Relationships which begin while someone is in college have a high failure rate - especially in Law and Medicine because your life changes so much from student to someone working in your chosen field. Good Luck to you!!

Answer 2

sounds like you have a pretty selfish guy that has his priorities in the wrong order do you feel like your relationship is worth talking about at the end of the day do you feel loved appreciated excited to see this man etc... if not then this relationship is not for you you sound like you already have your mind up anyways so good luck and if you do want to work on this then you need to have a serious conversation with him and make sure he changes a few things we all have jobs that take a lot from us but we still make time for what matters

Answer 3

Wow, i dont know, it took a long time for my husband to say he loved me when we were dating too but he had good reasons. It really sounds like he is using you and it is time to take a walk. I dont know what else to say if he loves you he will at very least try to get you back and it may make him realize that life without you might not be what he wants. I hope this helps.

Answer 4

so after you express some anger he comes running back to you...damn
i wouldnt say its healthy, if he took your virginity after wanting to talk about your relationship and never contacted you in any way the day after, then i dont know...he did say he wanted to talk about your relationship but if he never called after a big thing like sex then id definitely say its not the most healthy relationship
dont get me wrong though its not completely unhealthy, you can make it better! good luck!

he doesnt call you much either? then id say this relationships down the drain, communication is KEY in relationships. text messages are cute and all, but calling is, in my opinion, a better way to communicate with a girlfriend

Answer 5

It may be that he leads another life when he's away from you. That's wat i believe. Men are some of the most rude human beings. That's normal for a guy to take a woman's virginity and not call anymore. It's very seldom that they run into a virgin; and at the thought of breakin your virginity he orgasmed.

Answer 6

A college "sophemore"? Do they teach spelling and grammar in college? If you really have to ask if your relationship is healthy on an internet site...it obviously isn't....move on and save yourself some heartache!

Answer 7

No it's not healthy. it seems like you both want different things go find someone that will love you the way you want to be loved. sounds corny but w/e lol

Answer 8

This guy sounds like an ***. Get out of there, you sound like a respectable girl, but you won't be for much longer with him.

Answer 9

No this relationship isn't healthy, pack your bags and go.

♪♫Tweedle Dee, Tweedle Dum♪♫

Answer 10

if you feel a real connection to him; stay with him..
but he's treating you like dirt. no girl on this planet deserves to be treated like dirt. i'm sorry this happened to you, but you'd be happier with another guy. hope i helped =]