How do I stop worrying about losing my boyfriend???

Question

I was in an 11 year relationship. I thought it would last forever and he ended up changing his mind and left me. Not too long after w/o looking I found someone else. We have been together now for almost 2 months. I honestly believe I am falling in love w/ him. It is a scary feeling for me. It seems that the more feelings I develop for him, the more and more I worry about him breaking up w/ me so I analyse pretty much everything he says and does. I get really paranoid and scared that he's losing interest that I panic and get anxiety (I normally get a lot of anxiety over things in life) and then I almost somehow convince myself he will break up w/ me. From the moment I met him, I felt like it was meant to be and that he's the one. I seriously don't ever want to lose him. But I also don't want to feel like this but don't know how to stop. Please help me. I need some really good advice and guidance. Thanks!

Answer 1

Well twice apparantly you've had that feeling, besides that, its a foolish feeling. That aside, lady, hunnie, sister if you can't be honest with your man their about your anxities, its going to end up like the last one. People can get sex, love, drugs, money, from anywhere, the only thing that makes you special is your personality, charater, sense of humour, style, your individuality. You feel this, I know, but you don't like those aspects of you, so you feel that he well feel the same. Truth be told, you'll never know one way or another until you bring up those anxities to him, anything less then that, is right were your at. Relationships are a stuggle to find peace, not a practice of dening problems until your happy..... trust me, becaue the only true test to weather you have anything to worry about is HOW he handles you being honest about you.... don't be scared to see the answer their because thru that struggle, you can find the peace you need, and after 11 year relationship, you need peace......

Answer 2

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