Self-harm?

Question

I don't mean to trivialise it, but I was feeling so ugly the other day so I got a knife and cut underneath my eye.
Then the next day I felt worse so I made it deeper.

I know it's messed up... how can I stop feeling like this?

Answer 1

as you dont want to trivialise self harming then you clearly understand your actions and the effect it has on others,first thing i would ask is what prompted you to think you were ugly and is this the reason you took such a drastic action,beauty in any form is only skin deep at its best and if that's your picture then i see only a pretty girl who has a lot to offer others,i spend my days working in a female mental health unit and self harming is a way of life to some of the women i treat,some come through it on their own ,some with the help that's on offer,none manage to change once they get put on medication so you need to take a long hard look at yourself and find the trigger that caused this,i want to say if theres a next time,id rather say that there wont be a next time but if such a thought occurs again then please think twice before you end up in a unit like mine and im explaining it to you face to face

Answer 2

Get help.

You are screaming the silent scream of emotional pain. Don't do this on your own. Get help to break the cycle.

Something happens, you begin to think in a certain way, your feelings are set in motion and your actions reflect the pain you feel.

You can break this, but you need help from your doctor.

Please do not underestimate the danger of infection as well as the pain you are in.

Do get help - do it today.

You are worth it and deserve it - you can then shine like the sensitive person you know you are. No one or thing has the right to make you feel this turmoil. Begin to break the cycle today.

Go out into an empty space and shout as loud as you can.
Go for a run.
A swim.
Write - get a red felt pen and scribble all the words about how you feel on a piece of paper and then spend time tearing it into tiny pieces.

Get a piece of lemon and suck it - change the sensation you want to feel.

Chew or rub a piece of ice on yourself - avoiding more serious injury.

Plan to avoid - notice the signs of the cycle beginning and interrupt them.

You can do this.

Answer 3

This link to the Mind website will give you some easy to read and understand information

Understanding self harm:
http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Booklets/Understanding/Understanding+self-harm.htm

It would be a good idea to make an appointment to see your GP and discuss how you are feeling, and why you feel the need to harm yourself in order to cope.

Write down everything that you can think of and take it with you, then if you are anxious or distressed you will have something to remind you of what to say, or you can always ask the Dr to read it.

Please find some help and support.

Answer 4

i have been cutting for some years so w/o contridicting myself i'd say you have to really think about it.. are you ugly or just an ugly person inside? why do yo think you're ugly? is there an issue behind that, so you just think you're ugly? If u keep saying you're ugly then u'll be ugly! the more energy you feed into somehthing the more you get out of it. scars will make you ugly. but you cannot let your emotions dictate the beautiful being you truly are! why not let other people see that instead of how much you'e hurtin?

Answer 5

Girl you need a support group like your friends and family why are you feeling ugly your beautiful I think every girl feels like that at times becus they are not getting enough attention and you are tring to get the attention by cutting yourself totally not cool dont do that you will end up with a scar try to stay close to your friends and family you really need them and try to let them know even go to someone at school or even work to talk too

Answer 6

i dont wanna sound all "speechy" or whatever but plz dont harm urself. Dont feel like that, i kno im not in ur position but i've know ppl like dat and das jus a bad feeling that attacks alot of ppl then ur life becomes worse when u couldv'e stopped it a long time ago. SNAP out of it and do something fun.....no matter what , dont think that ur ugly cuz, do u know how many ppl live on this earth ruining their life cuz they think they're ugly and there have been ppl who liked them. ppl will always like you, there are BILLIONS and more of ppl on this planet. plus if ur the girl in the avatar pic, ur pretty, seriously. Good luck :p .

Answer 7

I know that you are really upset with the way you look, but cutting your under-eye and leaving scars isn't helping yourself! You could really hurt your vision and your face. Your beautiful, no joke. You need to talk to a friend or a family member about this. Get our anger out on something other than yourself.

Answer 8

Wow honey, U are not ugly. Please don't cut around ur eyes again that's very dangerous. I know about feeling ugly and I know about self harm. I'm 16 and have been cutting for 3years. Please talk 2 someone. Ur mom, friends. Do u keep a notebook? It works when ever u feel like dirt just write it down.

Answer 9

1st of all dont cut under your eye or anywhere on ur face.
Secondly well we teens often cut ourselves.ok and if you feel like that just try to change your mood by going out somewhere prefably alone may be at the seaside,that really helps.

Answer 10

Hey chickadee, you look beautiful to me. Check out this link for info but you need to find another way to channel your negative feelings or you really will mess up your face. Have you tried writing your bad feelings down or even taking them out on a pillow? Sounds stupid but it really can help relieve the pressure.
XXX

http://www.selfharm.org.uk/default.aspa