We did terrible things to eachother. I haven't spoken to him in almost 1 year, haven't seen him for 3 years. But, I have not moved on. I still love him. I am still single & haven't even kissed another man.
A year ago, he still loved me. He moved on shortly after we seperated. We can't be together. How can I put this to rest?
2007-11-29 11:41:49 · 16 answers · asked by Nicole M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
suicide? That's mean, star. I have a 4yo. & I am a single mom.
I always wanted to learn how to spell separate!
2007-11-29 13:19:31 · update #1
Star that's not funny. Ive always told myself love is blind you cant see the right answer through it, seek out help from others. I'm sure in those three years you have tried to fill that empty hole up with other guy but it was never the same putting it to rest probably isn't an option your best bet is to try your hardest to get your mind off of him. It will be hard because i think love is not being able to live with out someone, so you have to get rid of everything that reminds you of him if you haven't already other then that moving on from love is impossible in my eyes.
2007-11-29 11:50:11 · answer #1 · answered by I love her more then anything 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well eventhough that person gave you and idiot answer I think there maybe an unresolved issue that has a constant hold on your heart. maybe you are just used to being with that one person and you still have that mindset that it will be you and him forever. Either resolve that issue or find another guy to spend time with you dont have to date but never lose your life in a man you have to love yourself first before you can love someone else so do things for you and you will soon forget trust me i have felt the same thing you jus gotta learn to let go and its hard but try
2007-11-29 19:48:25 · answer #2 · answered by abzy19882006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its ok if you still love him but then you just need to move on. Getting over is not true. If you loved that guy before then the feeling will always be there until you found someone that could open up your heart again.
2007-11-29 20:03:05 · answer #3 · answered by des 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably discovered certain beautiful things in life that can only be found with someone you care for. They have everlasting staying power. You will never forget certain things discovered in that relationship. That`s not to say that beauty can`t be found elsewhere. The very best way to move on is to allow someone else the pleasure of your company. Perhaps it`s someone you would never consider. You must at least think fondly of someone. Allow them your company. If they won`t ask you then you should ask them. Who knows, your ex may see that you have grown without him and realize the mistake he has committed. Go for it!!
2007-11-29 19:55:08 · answer #4 · answered by drcosentino2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my own experience, I recognize that you may still be "in love" with the idea of being "in love." I still "love" my ex although he tried to kill me!
Write yourself a letter and work out what he represents to you. Find a confidant or couselor to talk it out. Go for a long walk, and use creative imagery to make a new brain space for him as someone you used to know, but with whom you no longer have an intimate relationship.
2007-11-29 19:47:28 · answer #5 · answered by soxrcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because often once you love someone, a part of you always will.
I think part of your problem lies in the additional details: namely, try to find someone else, in time the relationship will build if it is going to work out and finally be patient, with patience comes good things.
2007-11-29 19:46:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone new. Life is too short to spend alone, relying on residual feelings of Love left behind by a relationship you were not happy in.
2007-11-29 19:47:12 · answer #7 · answered by 35 YEARS OF INTUITION 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put it out there let it be known. write out all of you are stilling feeling that way. then write down why you can't be together. put down the good anf bad. hell write it to him. end it say you are over him that you are strong enough to move and and mean it them light it up. burn it and let the ashes take it out in the world and be done.
2007-11-29 19:48:31 · answer #8 · answered by faeryrose143 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't put any closure to your past relationship with your ex and he has. You're going to have to move on and find that special someone for you. Don't waste your time on what would've, should've or could've. . . move on. Good Luck!
2007-11-29 19:47:33 · answer #9 · answered by peaches6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was your first love then its hard you will always love your first. You just move on when you feel you can.Dont let no one else make that decision for you
2007-11-29 19:45:44 · answer #10 · answered by princess_24529 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋