There's this boy at my school. I don't know what it is but something attracts me to him!PROBLEM: he's 2 years younger than me.I'm 17, he's 15.He's a sophomore, I'm a senior I don't know what to do or think! My friends keep calling me a pedophile or sex offender and all the that other stuff...but I can't help it. I don't even know if he's intersted! Some days he stairs at me, and the other days he sees me but acts like I don't exist. Some of my friends say he's gay! Only because he dresses fashionable?! We live in NY. I mean, the fashion capital of the world? But anyway..I'm just really confused. Is it OK for me to like him? I want to talk to him so bad!But I'm afraid. I don't know what to say to him. And I know I'm turning 18 in 9 months and I also know the consequences of going out with him IF i ever do.
ugghhhh please help??
2007-11-29 11:13:33 · 25 answers · asked by Normal? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK honey. You have to talk to him. Pluck up courage, find an excuse and say hi. He really is a bit young for you at the moment, especiallly as girls tend to mature faster than boys, not that that will make a scrap of difference. From a male point of view, though, as you are no doubt a gorgeous young lady, he's going to think he's in heaven. You're going to make his day soooo much. However, by talking to him, you may find that it changes your view of him. I mean, what do 15 year old boys talk about? Seriously, though, he's probably trying to pluck up his courage to talk to you, which is why sometimes he stares at you, and sometimes ignores you.
I hope this helps, honey, and God bless you.
2007-11-29 11:24:19 · answer #1 · answered by SKCave 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aha. I have the same problem. But, I don't think I would ever have the chance, seeing my status. We're Cougars- thats a better name for it.
I'd say, try to talk to him, get to know him as a friend. Be casual. Like, if you're waiting in line at the cafeteria, and you just happen to be right next to him, comment on his shirt, or something to start up a conversation.
But don't let this feeling make you feel walked all over. Even if you like him, don't let that control you. You should go half way to meeting him, and he should do the other half.
Well, if that doesn't work for you, you could alsways try Kids Help Phone online. They've got really great answers there!
Good luck anyways =D
2007-11-29 19:20:19 · answer #2 · answered by Allision M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off age is just a number, and just because your dating doesn't mean having sex so if you don't do that you don't have to worry about being a pedophile. Ask him if he feels the same way, if he is gay most likely he will let you know. You can like him all you want, nothing is gonna happen unless you talk to him, as for your friends picking on you...don't listen, high school isn't gonna last forever, and most people when they graduate don't always keep the same friends, you grow and move on.
2007-11-29 19:19:34 · answer #3 · answered by Jeanne-Marie Bondy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the comments fail to state he will be an adult and you still a minor, no need for that and as noted he will be out in the world of older persons and responsibility in like one year -college and full time work- You on the other hand will have more time in school. Certainly not a problem letting him know how you feel, dive right on in, but please don't expect either of you to "wait" for one another. Take caution in the situation, act now so that you at least won't regret it later on, wondering of what could have been. good luck!
2007-11-29 23:21:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, there's kinda an unspoken rule if you're an older girl (in highschool) trying to date a younger guy. You allllllllllllllllllllways have to make the first move. 99% of freshman guys (and the other 1% are arrogant assholes) are going to be too shy to make the first move with a girl who's 2 years older, and they will stick to flirting at the very most.
and of course it's ok for you to like him. Not common, but not wrong =) good luck
2007-11-29 19:17:37 · answer #5 · answered by pieninja 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello,,that is not a problem. Just be casual with your approach and ask the guy if he is interested in hanging out with you for a little while after school someplace not to private at first but with room to be yourself without having to explain everything to him. Perhaps you could show him the neighborhood you live in, by giving him a ride if possible, you need to just do it and not allow friends of different character to make your life story something they want but cannot get themselves to follow through with either.
2007-11-29 19:21:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its not wrong to go out with a person under 18 when you are. That is not being a sex offender. You just cant have sex... So i guess you will have to wait less than 3 years to have sex.... so that should be no problem...
2007-11-29 19:17:31 · answer #7 · answered by I ♥ Tes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to think of having a friendship with him for now and if something develops from that fine. Friends are the best and you don't need to worry about the age difference. If you can't be friends you can't be anything else either.
2007-11-29 19:19:10 · answer #8 · answered by Penny M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know that in a few years time those two years won't matter at all. Some people date others who are ten years younger / older and even more! Ignore your friends and talk to the guy.
btw, if he dates you his friends will be SO jealous of him!! lol
2007-11-29 19:18:15 · answer #9 · answered by pagey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are little bit too old to date him because you are a senior and he is a sophomore shoudl`nt you want to date someone that is a senior or at least a sophomore? Age is nothing but a number but somtimes they are limits.
2007-11-29 19:20:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋