now this is a question on how " you" deal with things so i can have some insight on how to change my behavior. see im in a relationship with a great guy, but i get so jealous, sometimes i can control it but other times i get so mean, because i cant. jealousy isnt the only thing also when i get my feelings hurt( ie he wont eat my cooking even though im a pretty ok cook) i throw a guilt trip, or just get mean. i know some of these things some of yall wont get mad at but what do you guys do to deal with jealousy or getting your feelings hurt? i know he probably would never intend to hurt me but i dont want my behavior to eventually shoo him off. i dont need you guys to critque me or stupid jokes, just how do you deal with things?
2007-11-29 11:05:42 · 6 answers · asked by me me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well you took the first step by admitting you are jealous and sometimes say mean things when you get hurt .... might be a good thing to explain this to him ... if he has gave you no reason to be jealous ..when you feel them feelings starting to happen ..count to 10 then remind yourself ..you trust him and have no need to be jealous ... and when he dont eat ..have you thought he might have already ate ... or can you ask nicely do you not like this type of food ... or politely as him if he would just try a bite .... but in reality hun if you dont start dealing with your outburst you will loose him ... a little jealousy can be ok but to much will ruin a relationship .... good luck.
2007-11-29 11:18:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What your feeling is only natural,but you need control it and not take it out on him...Instead of directing it at him,try doing something else that will give you time to cool down,like exercise,walk,hit a pillow,whatever it takes to control it...When he hurts your feelings you need to let him know it hurt you or it will be repeated,even if it is unknowingly done on his part..Not in an angry mode,just discuss it in a calm manner...Keep the communication open,its the best way to get along...good luck!
2007-11-29 11:15:22 · answer #2 · answered by *toona* 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to chat about what kind of things hurt your feelings, and how he can change his attitude to be more supportive, and more sensitive to your moods. Find out what his favorite foods are, and what things he won't eat. This is all a matter of communication. TALK. The budding relationships can all do with more talking--not about gossip, and stories, and general talk, but talk about what you see in your future, what kind of stuff you do for leisure and find out how much you really have in common. Take care,
Debbie
2007-11-30 03:29:45 · answer #3 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i cant help u thats sum10 u have 2 try to ova come plus jealousy isnt good
2007-11-29 12:47:46 · answer #4 · answered by ¸¸.•*´`*♥ZHANEL♥*´`*•.¸¸ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I LET HIM KNOW WHAT MY FEELINGS ARE I JUST DON'T START SHOOTING WORDS OUT OF MY MOUTH. THAT WAY HE CAN TELL ME IF I M MISTAKEN OR SOMETHING AND HE WON'T BE SO SCARED AND WANT TO LEAVE AND HE'LL UNDERSTAND
2007-11-29 11:09:47 · answer #5 · answered by That's Life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are you getting jealous over?
2007-11-29 11:09:28 · answer #6 · answered by [♥]ÿºú-kñºw-whº[♥] 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋