ok here's the situation.Me and my girl been 2gether for about a year and 2 months.We're in love and everything,she got my name tatooed on her back.she moved in with me and my mom 4 months into the relationship.My mom said she can stay until we get enough money to get our own place.
Here's the problem though.She always wants to go and see her family.I know this sounds crazy but I thought when you in a relationship you see ya family less often.She wants to see her family every month or every 2 months.I think that it is too much considering that we love being around each other.
Me and her fam dont really get along like that.I told her its no problem talkin on the phone everyday but why do you have to go see them that often?I told her settled down couples dont run and see they fam every 1 or 2 months.she thinks Im trying to keep her away from her family.
What should I do about this situation?Am i the wrong one here?
by the way Im 23 and my girl is 20
2007-11-29 10:14:50 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You might feel differently if you were not living with your mom. Cut your girl some slack. She misses her family. Once you are truly out on your own, you may see that you will also be visiting your mom more than once every month or two.
2007-11-29 10:21:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok u need to sit down somewhere. just because yall r in a relationship does not mean she doesnt have the right to see her family. to be honest family comes FIRST before anything. if u have a problem with her wanting to see her fam every one or 2 months u have serious issues in ur head. she barely sees them as it is so if thats too much for u....then u need to seek pro. help. give it up plz and get a life outsidde of her because im sure her life does not just revolve around u.
2007-11-29 18:19:43 · answer #2 · answered by r&b diva 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are very much the wrong one in this situation. You cannot tell her how often she can see her family; you live with yours! Come on, quit being jealous of her family. If you end up getting married, this will get you a divorce because she will get tired of it. Every 1 to 2 months is not very often; it is very little.
2007-11-29 18:21:35 · answer #3 · answered by BooBoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, so firstly, i don't think you're wrong because you probably have too much stuff to do, and want time together, but think about it from her point of view. She wants to see her family too,Don't ya think it's a bit selfish to keep her from going?.. i mean, this girl is definetly committed to you, So i say you set up a deal with her which will probably work out for both of you, because you said she thinks you you don't care about her family.... take her and her family to dinner once every 3 or 4 months, your treat. get them stuff for Christmas, once in a while get her mom flowers or her dad a bottle of wine..they'll appreciate the little things you do...
2007-11-29 18:39:05 · answer #4 · answered by MNM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is still young, she is going to miss her mommy and daddy and her siblings. It will go on for a little while but she will start seeing you more often. Not to worry, she loves you, take the time to relax and let some time pass. This means that she is family oriented and you and her will raise a wonderful family.
2007-11-29 18:23:20 · answer #5 · answered by Kitty Lucy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea you are wrong because you are trying to keep her away form her family. Maybe she is a family person you have to respect that, I understand that you want to be with her and she does`nt have to be with her family all the time but she just wants to keep in contact with them and that is not a bad thing. Just try to make your girfriend happy, I mean if she likes being with her family than let her be because she just wants to keep in contact is not like she wants to move in back with them when she is with you because if it was something like that than it would be a problem.
2007-11-29 18:32:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yes, you're wrong! It's natural to want to spend as much time as you can with your gf, especially if you love her as you say you do. But if you truly do, and seeing her family makes her happy, what's the problem? Even if you and her family don't get along very well, it should be worth it to you if it makes her so happy.
2007-11-29 18:19:11 · answer #7 · answered by Bella2193 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well first off you say you dont get along with her family thats whats wrong and your with yours every day and she only sees there every month or two whats so wrong about that shes only 20 just like you both needs friends to hang with work dont control her
2007-11-29 18:32:02 · answer #8 · answered by master 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're being very selfish. What you're saying is that it's okay for her to live in your family's house and see your family everyday, but you don't want her seeing her family the little bit that she see's them. She should see her family whenever she wants regardless of what you say, so no I don't agree with you.
2007-11-29 18:19:19 · answer #9 · answered by peaches6 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
does her family live out of town or something..? my boyfriend an i have lived together for almost 2 years an he sees his parents about every other day or so... wats so wrong with her seeing her family? are u afraid she will leave u?
2007-11-29 18:19:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋