my friend[not me]has a boyfriend and doesnt like him but he really really likes her how should she breakup with him without hurting him???hurry up and answer too!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-11-29 09:14:04 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't know anyone who hasn't been hurt from being dumped. Let's face it; rejection stings. However, it is a fact of life and an "occupational hazzard" of dating. Your friend has every right to decide this guy isn't for her.
I suggest she be honest but kind. Being beyond reproach matters. Face to face is best, provided she is safe to do so. She can preface it with a call, "George, we need to talk." Then she can do what has become cliche, but believe me, kindness does pay off. She can tell him a couple good things about him ("You're really nice, sweet, smart, etc..."), and then tell him it isn't working ("...But I don't think this is working for me..."). If she feels she wants to or needs to, she can tell him more details, but she isn't obligated to. The fact that it isn't working for her is reason enough.
*NOTE:
If safety IS an issue, I suggest she tell her parents of her intentions and then maybe a call or message will have to be her mode of choice. Then make sure she takes the proper precautions afterward (being with friends when out, not being alone at home for a while, etc.) Safety is always first.
I wish her luck and tell her not to feel guilty. It is her right to want out, and if she does it with kindness and respect, she is doing absolutely nothing wrong.
2007-11-29 09:28:01 · answer #1 · answered by Gauffsa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to be honest with him (gently!) and tell him the truth: that, while he's a great guy, she just doesn't have romantic feelings for him anymore.
If he really cares for her, there's no way she's going to avoid hurting him, but that's love.
The best advice to give her: tell her to treat him the way she would like to be treated if the situation was reversed. That works 90% of the time for most things like this.
2007-11-29 09:22:04 · answer #2 · answered by Superion 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Say this:
"It's not u its me and I don't feel like I'm ready 2 b in a relationship. I would like 2 b ur friend but, nothing pass friendship. Your a great person to know and to be with but I really need time 2 find myself".
U know to add a bit more maybe a lil tear. If it don't work I'm SORRY.
2007-11-29 09:23:09 · answer #3 · answered by Miss.SourPatch! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She needs to be honest and tell him she doesnt want to be his girlfriend anymore. He might be hurt now but in the long run it is in both of thier best interest. He deserves someone who likes him and she should not sacrifice herself just to save his feelings.
2007-11-29 09:24:00 · answer #4 · answered by lwright311 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. He deserves to be happy with someone who will feel the same about him.
2007-11-29 09:20:45 · answer #5 · answered by Latoya C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she has to say the truth and be real with him... let her tell him how she feels and that they were probably moving to fast.it worked for my boyfriend...
tell her i said good luck
2007-11-29 09:18:06 · answer #6 · answered by chikalet 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
be honest, and just tell him.. leading him on is cruel and unnecessary..
2007-11-29 09:18:49 · answer #7 · answered by roguebarb 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she needs to eat some bird poop
2007-11-29 09:18:55 · answer #8 · answered by d 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋