I'm in high school and a junior, but I'm leaving for boot camp this summer. (army) I'm in a relationship and I don't know why I'm worrying now instead of later, but w/e. I'm worried it's going to be too much for her and she'll leave me in the middle of it. I don't want to stress about that while there, so what advice can you give me? What should I do, and has anyone had a similar split op experience?
2007-11-29 09:06:24 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Had a similar situation when I left for AF Basic. She helped me through it by sending me letters and pictures, I would call her instead of my parents...really cared for her. After basic, I went to my four month tech school (so I did not see her for a total of six months) I was able to call her more often and get better care packages but about half way through tech school, she broke it off...she said she could not wait until my school was over to see me again. That and she had started seeing someone else who happened to be her "friend" and became more. Couldn't really blame her ...there was some awkwardness the next time I saw her but we eventually put everything behind us and became friends. Fast-forward met someone who was just as caring if not more & married her.
So I'd say enjoy the time you have with her. If she wants to stick with you while you are gone at Boot, let her & I commend her for that and you'll be glad she's there for you. But if things don't work out, don't get too upset... be understanding (I know it will be hard). You'll be going on to new & exciting experiences. You'll get to your first assignment and there is going to be a whole new pool of people to meet & possibly date.
Hope this helps..got plenty of more to add.. if you want to hear it shoot me an email. Good luck at boot.
2007-11-30 01:52:11 · answer #1 · answered by AF FE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just about everyone that has gone in the Army out of high school has had your experience my friend.
Let me tell you this and I mean it in all sincerity. Get your mind right before you hit basic. You need to be focused there not worried about Jody coming to get your girl. (you will understand that later.) :)
If she is your high school sweetheart that you will marry and have 2.3 beautiful children with, then she will be that. Either now or later. Does she want a military life? It is a a rough one for spouses. Are you going to do more than your intial enlistment? You may get in there and be sent to Germany, Korea, Iraq. All questions for later of course. But basic is all a mind screw.
Your too young to understand any of this, ( I can't believe I just said that, just like my dad said to me.) But get your footing before you leave. Maybe give her some room to play. It will be a question you could get answered now and never have to question again right?
2007-11-30 03:29:35 · answer #2 · answered by momusmusic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she truly loves you, she will stay with you. High school love can be fickle though, so if you honestly don't think she'll be able to wait it out, you should consider leaving her before you go to boot camp so you don't stress about it there. You are doing something much bigger and more important than her, congratulations and thank you for serving our country.
2007-11-29 09:14:34 · answer #3 · answered by alilley07 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Concentrate on boot camp, if the army wants you to have a GF during that time they will issue you one (seriously all joking aside), If she is worth it she will stick around if not, you have plenty of time for girls AFTER boot camp. Do not let things distract you, get through training and good luck
2007-11-29 09:57:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, talk to her about it. And if you really want to do it, then do it, no matter WHAT she says. I made the mistake of listening to my ex...she didn't want me to do it, and was wanting to join the Marines since I was five. And you shouldn't worry about it, if she leaves you, then you'll know that she doesn't care for you that much, and if she stays, then she does! ^ _^
2007-11-29 09:15:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that is all the faith in her that you have, you haven't much of a relationship now do you? i think you should talk to her.
2007-11-29 09:12:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is she really cares for you, she will stick it out. if she doesn't, then it wasn't meant to be and you will find someone who IS strong enough to be a military spouse.
2007-11-29 10:27:11 · answer #7 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah high school love. idk man if its what u wanna do, do it. if she cant put up with it dont worry youll find somone else.
2007-11-29 09:09:52 · answer #8 · answered by bmetzger1988 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋