he wants to have sex w/ me and i do to but then again i don't im confused
2007-11-29 09:05:48 · 51 answers · asked by Tinkabell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi look never feel like it is a duty ,coz it's not if he is putting pressure on you then time to cool it down.
If he really cares for you he will not push it ,let him know your not ready,then you will see if he is just after sex or thinks a lot of you..
Then if he comes up as caring for you ,do what you think is right for you not him ,if ya get me drift.
Always practice safe sex,so condoms a must at all times ♥
2007-11-29 09:15:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're unsure then you are NOT ready. Explain to him that you just aren't ready. If he really cares for you he'll respect you and give you time. Don't let yourself get into situations that could lead to sex until you are sure you're ready. I told my niece over and over to avoid certain situations because she had said she wasn't ready. I told her it's too easy for things to go farther then you meant to let them. It ended up happening to her and she was quite stressed and depressed because it led to the guy thinking she'd be willing to all of the time. Now she's stuck trying to take the relationship back a few steps because she's still not ready.
If you have any doubts, wait it out.
2007-11-29 09:11:26 · answer #2 · answered by MISS H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? That is an important thing to ask. You may not be ready for the responsibility that comes with it? Think very hard before you decide to take the next step. It may be a good idea to talk with your mother and let her know what you are thinking. Good Luck!
2007-11-29 09:10:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sweat it, when it's right you'll know. Don't let him pressure you into it. Tell him you aren't ready, you like him, and want to be with him, but sex is just not on the menu right now, if it changes you'll let him know. Sex complicates things, be sure you are truely ready - you can't take it back, best bet.. wait.
2007-11-29 09:11:16 · answer #4 · answered by velvetca1972 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is really interested he will wait and not pressure you. You wait until you are 100% ready. Maybe the questions you’re having is your women’s intuition kicking in, listen to it. Just think of it as a good way to weed out the losers ;)
Good Luck.
2007-11-29 09:17:03 · answer #5 · answered by lovergurl951 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think u may not be ready you're not.
If ur a girl you really need a lot of factors to be present in order to honestly physically enjoy it... you need to feel 100% comfortable in everything.. meaning in his feelings towards you, in your feelings towards him, in what his reaction and yours would be if you were to get pregnant and you need to have a time and place where you can relax & enjoy. If you have doubts in any of the above - don't do it. If you don't know the answers to the above- don't do it.
If he can't wait, then u shouldn't be with him anyway!
Good luck...
2007-11-29 09:13:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he REALLY cares for you he won't pressure you to do something that you aren't ready for. Once it's done it can't be undone. Wait as long as you can, it will be much better, safer and more gratifying. Don't give in to peer pressure just to say you did it doesn't make you an expert, nor does your friend saying they've done it mean that they really have. Use your head and follow your heart... wait! =)
2007-11-29 09:12:40 · answer #7 · answered by DB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you're not quite ready. There's no rush, if he's worth giving it up for then he'll wait until your comfortable and happy to go ahead. If he tries to force the issue, then think yourself lucky you've just found out that he's not worth it.
Just don't rush it, it should be enjoyable, comfortable, secure and loving. If you rush it then you can guarantee it won't be any of those things.
James
2007-11-29 09:11:08 · answer #8 · answered by James H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never rush it. Generally it goes, "When in doubt, don't."
You've your entire life to have sex, but it only takes one time to ruin things. Besides, the more comfortable both involved feel about it, the greater you'll feel during and after (not just the sex, but your entire relationship, or life, for that matter).
2007-11-29 09:11:59 · answer #9 · answered by Cy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you aren't ready and he just keeps persisting that you do it that means that he is only in the relationship for his sexual needs. sorry to put it that way but thats how it is. the only time you should start to have sex is when you are ready for a baby, cause you never know what is going to happen
2007-11-29 09:09:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋