Anytime I've been on one of these dating sites I've saw a girl I'd like to get to know and sent her a message and you always get nothing back. eHarmony.com just finds no matches all together. No matter how you fill out the questionnaire. I've tried changing my approach from everything from just a simple Hi to being silly like asking do you think we'll have corndogs in the year 3000. I've even tried to insult them just to see if I would get an insult back. Just to make sure it was a real person. It doesn't matter how many hours you seem to take sending out messages to different girls you never get a response. Why get on the site if you aren't going to talk to anyone?
2007-11-29 09:01:48 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't be silly. Be yourself, but maybe try to be original. Instead of just saying hi, say something about yourself, something interesting. You might want to look at your profile and see if there's anything to change about it. I don't know much about eharmony. I don't think you can respond on it until after a certain time period because the system sort of does the exchanges for you. I've been on Singlesnet.com before, so I'll tell you from a female perspective, I rarely answered anyone who didn't bother to write anything other than hi or the like, I never had anyone write being silly, but if someone had written me about having corndogs in 3000, I wouldn't have responded. I also looked at the profile and again, if they didn't write anything in the about me section, I didn't bother with them. Bascially, you should pretend that you're meeting someone in person. Tell them a little bit about yourself, ask something about them. Another good tip....look at her profile before you write and mention something she said in her profile.
2007-11-29 09:10:12 · answer #1 · answered by First Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL, your question was hilarious and what you did too. That was awesome. Dude, the internet is like a magnified glass that rotates and you can't see who is on the other side. The rate of success on just talking is very low, because they can be you what they are looking, but they don't see you same as you don't see someone for who she really is. Even meeting them, it would take you a while to get to really know that person, or even more. I would suggest to stop wasting your time and your energies and forget about that, try one that is free so you don't waste your money, and just once every couple of months to "see", then get out of there and live the real life out there. Go to a gym, get a couple of hobbies, and try to enjoy your single life while it last. You have no idea who will cross your path, you may be playing with fire wanting to meet someone, it may be for good or for bad, it can make you happy or misserable and you have to get into all that drama of relationships that is something that now, you aren't seeing, you just see things will be so much better, but that's not the case.
2007-11-29 09:10:21 · answer #2 · answered by livingthe30s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. Maybe they are people who already found what they are looking for and moved on?
In any case, you need to get off the net and get out there and meet real people. It doesn't matter male or female, just meet people your age and get to know them actively and one day bingo she'll be there. The more people you know the better your odds.
Also, work on your real life avatar, polish and perfect it, make sure it oozes confidence, and never walk out the door without it on, because you never know when you'll run into her.
2007-11-29 09:08:05 · answer #3 · answered by Duck in the woods 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WTF???? omgah well one thing if you have to get on a dating site that's pretty pathetic! She prolly thinks your some kind of loser if your asking if there r going to be freakin corn dogs in the future! WTF is that about? One tip for ya buddy if your tryin to get a girl don't start out talking about freakin corn dogs in the future! That is such a pathetic Loser weirdo thing to do! i would instantly IGNORE YOU! obviously you need to get a life and find real ppl that are not over the computer that's just a pathetic thing to do! i hope you have luck finding you a girl!
2007-11-29 09:11:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously there not interested in you. common sense.
2007-11-29 09:05:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋