This is a sincere question. A life changing experience, not some juvenile bull.
How far would you go to get the one you loved?
I haven't told him. He's gone, and I dont think he loves me back. But I realized (more like accepted) today I cant do it without him. I need him and I love him.
Should I tell him, or just let him go? I dont think he feels the same way.
2007-11-29 08:55:58 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So I called him to ask why we couldnt be friends anymore, and he said he needed some time to get rid of any feelings for me so we could actually be friends in the near future. Then instead of telling him I loved him I totally chickened out and said gave him an ultimatum. . . . saying that this time apart was unnecessary, that we should just relax and be friends, not be so serious. And that if I had to go this long without him, I didnt think I would recover and be able to be friends again.
He said "so you're saying if I am not friends with you now, I will lose you forever?", without me actually using any of those words (lose me forever, etc.). I said yes, and then he said he would think about it.
wtf? Think about it? It's a yes or no effin answer.
Am I being one of those blind females who cant seem to understand he's not into me? Ugh I feel dumb.
2007-11-30 08:11:56 · update #1
Well, if you love him, you should tell him. You never know, he may feel the same way, or he may not. That's not really something you will want to question down the road. It's better to find out that he doesn't love you then to not be sure because once you know the truth, you can have the closure you need and move on. Without that closure, you will think about him for years to come and wonder what would have happened had you told him how you really feel. I know it may hurt now, but you have to get hurt in order to heal.
2007-11-29 09:01:30 · answer #1 · answered by Kris B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a two-way street. You can easily turn someone off by rushing in with "knowing" they are the one. You are presently infatuated I would say. Have you tried flirting? If it is a year down the line and you still think he is the one... Then go for it like a tiger unless he really cant stand you. But you should learn to judge people's body language real well if you are going to go full steam ahead.
2007-11-29 17:35:52 · answer #2 · answered by Peter R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To fight for love is taking a huge risk. It could end up being the best or worst thing you've ever done. My husband left me in January and I fought like hell to make our love work and now I'm in divorce court fighting for my children, belongings and everything else that is important in my life. However, if my attempt had worked, it could have turned out completely different and I could be happier than I've ever been rather than more miserable than I've ever been like I am now. Good luck.
2007-11-29 16:59:57 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Kym♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the fear of truly telling someone how I feel, especially knowing they don't feel the same about me. Honestly, your setting yourself up for a fall. Nothing worse than that one sided love. If you tell the person how you really feel, you can't help but wonder: if you will just be used til someone else comes along. Yeah it sucks, but for your well being I'd ease out of it if possible
2007-11-29 17:05:31 · answer #4 · answered by david 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you find out about his whereabouts and his current situation, before you get dissapointed? Maybe he's married, has a gf.
Find out if he does feel the same way. One tip from woman to woman, it's hard not to be loved by the one you love.
So may want to consider and give yourself another chance.
Other mothers have great sons, too!
2007-11-29 17:01:27 · answer #5 · answered by the girl next door 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. I've been through several women that I loved dearly and just couldn't live without. After they were gone, I found out that not only could I live without them, I preferred to do so. It is often said that love is blind. Often times one awards qualities to their love interest that are not rightfully deserved.
2007-11-29 17:00:58 · answer #6 · answered by Mencken 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can always tell him how you feel and see if he shares in those feeling. It is better to let him know than to never know at all. I mean that is what I would do. Good luck and I hope it works out for you two
2007-11-29 16:58:44 · answer #7 · answered by ?? yaddajean ?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Such things require delicacy verses aggressiveness or forwardness. If you get pushy for him, he'll run and see you as a stalker. Sometimes, the best way to "fight" for the one you're attracted to is to be a cool confident cat who doesn't appear needy. :)
2007-11-29 17:00:45 · answer #8 · answered by Lover of Blue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him, better to love and lose than never loved at all..
Happened with me and my best friend, she didn't feel the same.
2007-11-29 16:59:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would never fight over love because it that person doesn't like u what is the point in the first place and i isn't like there is only one boy in the world and if he wasn't the one u will find him god created the right one for u
2007-11-29 16:59:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋