We have been together a year and I was just curious when is the right time. How many years and such.
2007-11-29 08:55:13 · 16 answers · asked by crazy_wolf_girl04 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well I'm not in high school I graduated in 2004. The wierd thing is I was married before and it was hell for 2 years. I never wanted to do it again, but now being with him I just started thinking about it one day and now it won't leave me alone. My step mom and my dad (married 10 years now) did it promise, then engagement then wedding. I thought I should do it the right way this time to.
2007-11-29 09:20:34 · update #1
I don't see the point of them, honestly. If you're in high school, they kind of make sense because it's too early to get engaged, but the promise ring shows that you have a serious relationship. Even then though, I don't think you should expect one, because most kids in high school don't have a lot of money to spend on one. My boyfriend and I were serious in high school (now we're sophomores in college and just got engaged) but he never got me a promise ring. I wouldn't have wanted one, honestly. He did buy me an expensive necklace for my 18th birthday after we'd been together for a little over a year, which I thought of as a kind of promise necklace. But if you insist on a promise ring, I'd say a year or two of being together is a good time to get one.
2007-11-29 09:09:50 · answer #1 · answered by sarai_kristi 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Totally depends on the couple.
I got mine at 6 months (unexpectedly) and love it.
ADD: I got mine while I was 17 years old and in HS....now I'm engaged, so the people boo-ing young people for getting a promise ring obviously have not had any experience themselves.
If you are already out of HS, then a promise ring is pointless. The purpose of (my) promise ring was because my bf and I were too young/unprepared to actually get married...we just knew that we wanted *one day*.
A promise ring is for puppy love, not for a divorcee. If you plan on getting married, then you should plan on first getting an engagement ring, since you've already missed the promise ring boat.
Don't pressure him to get you a ring though. He will when he is good and ready.
Good luck :)
2007-11-29 17:13:10 · answer #2 · answered by kiki 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I think you are way too old for a promise ring. If you want to marry this guy, then an engagement ring would be more proper.
2007-11-30 06:39:42 · answer #3 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My fiancee gave me a promise ring when I was 16, two years after we started dating. We've now been together 7 years and will be getting married just before our 8th anniversary.
I don't know if there is a "right" time... Whenever he wants, I suppose.
2007-11-29 17:53:13 · answer #4 · answered by BTB{06.22.09} 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Usually couples who are dating in high school, maybe after eight months to a year of dating - it just shows you're 'going steady'.
Ok, read your added details - if you are mature, and seriously dating a mature man for a year and a half to two years, and are considering marriage - then it should be an engagement ring he's getting you.
2007-11-30 10:42:53 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one over 16 should have a promise ring. If you're planning to be married, get engaged. You're an adult, for heaven's sake.
2007-11-29 18:00:07 · answer #6 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
depends on how OLD you are, if your under 18 then whenever hes ready
if your older then 18, never. They aren't really anything.
id rather have an engagement ring then a promise ring.
2007-11-29 17:21:38 · answer #7 · answered by Mom to one cute boy! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think they are a stupid idea unless financial reasons prevent you from getting married/engaged as soon as you want to. They are supposed to mean you promise to marry one day, but if you are old enough/financially secure enough to get married, and you truly promise to one day marry each other, than why not get engaged for real?
2007-11-29 17:29:24 · answer #8 · answered by learning_to_live_616 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think they're necessary at all. It's possible your boyfriend feels the same. If a promise ring is important to you, I suggest discussing it with him.
2007-11-29 17:24:40 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
whenever he is ready to give it to you, but I wouldn't want one out of high shcool of the first year of college. After that they're kinda cheesy. Just don't expect one if he hasn't said anything, some guys don't even know what they are or don't like them.
2007-11-29 17:06:42 · answer #10 · answered by Jordan D 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋