My GF and I you could say technical broke up we were both going through some diff times with family, school ect. Well it finaly got to us and we got into a huge fight harsh words were exchanged and I half meaningly said we should end it. Well during the time we were not together, about 2 weeks, she slpet with a guy from her work. As of now, we are talking again and I will admit I was alot at fault but my main question is how do I deal with that situtaion of her sleeping with someone from work??? She said it was totaly physical one time deal and she did it because she felt lonely and needed attention. She is a very needy person like that I know. I feel that if we are to patch things up I do not want her working at the same place as the guy she was with especialy if I'm making effort to fix things. Is that unreasonable? I mean its not like a job job its P/T fast food joint. Also, how do I overcome or get through the fact of her being with someone else? cause it stings real bad.
2007-11-29 08:51:25 · 4 answers · asked by Geo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ouch, this is a tough one. I can understand your feelings...guys tend to be a bit more sensitive in situations like this.
Let's take it step by step. First of all, if there's any chance of you patching things up, you MUST come to terms with her one-time fling. After all, you did tell her "maybe we should end it"...and generally, whatever happens when two people are officially no longer together is fair game. Both guys and girls sometimes run into a trusted friend's arms when they're dumped, so that's not necessarily unusual: when you're hurting, sometimes you just want a shoulder to cry on.
I know this is easier said than done, but you have to take what she did for what it is and move forward. Try to think of it this way: technically, she didn't really cheat on you; and If she's willing to come back to you, then she really does care about you.
As for your demand about another job, that's a bit more tricky. Even though "it's not like a job job," employment of any kind is pretty good to have these days...particularly if it's close to home/school, etc. I think your best option is to just talk with her about your reservations and see what her response is. She may decide to leave that workplace on her own, or come up with another solution that you both can live with.
The best of love and luck to you both.
2007-11-29 09:08:55 · answer #1 · answered by Superion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You screwed up, pal..... You need to get beyond that she screwed the guy... "It didn't mean a thing."
She will more than likely do it everytime you two get into a fight... that's why peple get divorced....
Be better, don't be an ***!
2007-11-29 08:58:39 · answer #2 · answered by doug w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a physical one night stand with someone, that'll help.
2007-11-29 08:57:58 · answer #3 · answered by Bob Dylawn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all I have to say is ... LEAVE HER!! There is WAY MORE FISH IN THE SEA!! Tha'ts all.
2007-11-29 09:01:10 · answer #4 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋