Well my fiance and sons father was killed in a car accident Sept 21st and i am preg with his 2nd child which was concieved 5 days before he died well anyways i just recently found out that he cheated on me after our son was born over 2 yrs ago should i be upset which i am or should i just let it slide its not like i can confront him he is no longer here and i want to think about all the good stuff but i know there has to be more thats he done and it really hurts me.. Am i wrong for being upset and also i have his mother trying to blame me for him getting in the car like it was my fault that i didnt do anything to stop it when i did try and he wouldnt listen
2007-11-29 08:40:23 · 8 answers · asked by Dclp8204 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Forget about the mother. You are a victim here. I can't tell you how terribly sorry I feel for the circumstance you find yourself in.But there is a ray of light........you're going to have a beautiful child aren't you. Try to focus on that. Just stay with that one focal thing, that you are going to be a mother again, and do the best that you can, and all the crap that has happened is going to be behind. Make the future a rebirth just like your baby. I feel a mixture of sadness and happiness for you at the same time. You know the latter is the one that is going to prevail. Now let the past go. Get on with your life, and forgive the man who can not now beg for it from you. I'm sorry. But this is all that you can do. Good luck to you. God bless you dear.
2007-11-29 08:48:25 · answer #1 · answered by Blue Hues 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is gone, and there is know way for him to defend himself, how do you know that the person is telling the truth. Its simple, you never will. With that in mind, under the sercimstances i would disregard them as nothing more then rummors, and hold onto the good memories of him that you have.
Life is to short to go threw is mad because you are holding onto Grudges Let go and live your life!!!
2007-11-29 16:45:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to be upset. He did cheat on you. Even if he's gone you have should be upset. He never even told you. You were and still are the mother of his children and his mother shouldn't get her nose into your business. Look on the bright side, you have your children and the future to look forward.
2007-11-29 16:50:47 · answer #3 · answered by Bellanova123 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have no choice but to let it go and forgive cause like you said you can't do anything about it.....What you can do is teach your children right from wrong and if you have a son make sure he is taught to treat women with respect....!!!
2007-11-29 16:46:18 · answer #4 · answered by Danni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens, sometimes people fall down.
Sounds like he gotten back up and made things right. So forgive and forget, and remember the good times.
2007-11-29 16:44:51 · answer #5 · answered by David G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dclp8204, Well maam I am sorry for your loss but sweety for the sake of your own soul forgive him ! "Do not judge lest you be judged" ! Let the judgement go to Jesus !
2007-11-29 16:59:04 · answer #6 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to your feelings, work through them, and allow yourself to see him as a whole person. But for your, and your children's sake, don't let it consume you. As for his mother, she's hurt and it's easier to blame you than him! You can't help her, she has to help herself, let her work through it, she'll be back for those babies.
2007-11-29 16:45:45 · answer #7 · answered by velvetca1972 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let it go!take care of your baby
2007-11-29 16:45:10 · answer #8 · answered by drew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋