My brother is 12
2007-11-29 08:17:27 · 86 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him to go for her and make out with her.
2007-11-29 08:27:04 · answer #1 · answered by Chingaleng 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Allow your mother to handle it, unless she accepted. If she accepted you can:
Say "Mom, can you and I speak privately?"
The say " Mom I heard brother tell you he is attracted and it bothers me because I know its wrong which is why I was really alarmed when you did not correct him and set the boundaries down." Then:
1) Ask her not to pursue the intimacy
2) Suggest your brother and she see a counselor
If she did not offer encouragement but you need to discuss it,
do so without his knowledge. No need to embarrass him, many boys have attractions for their mothers at that age.
2007-11-29 08:27:16 · answer #2 · answered by craftyangelis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you two blood brothers? Firstly, at 12, he is starting to attain all of the emotions you get from supercharged hormones, so it may be somewhat difficult for him to realize that the person he is referring to is related to him. Unless you do not have an issue with incest, sit him down and calmly explain the situation to him. Tell him needs to find another interest and that is just the hormones in his body acting up.
2007-11-29 08:30:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, your brother is starting to explore his sexual feelings. I have heard of this before where a young boy fantasises about his mother. And that is all it is...a fantasy. Soon he will transfer his sexual feelings onto a girl at school, or even a teacher. This is normal for a teen boy.
When i used to work as a counsellor, teenage boys would sometimes make similiar remarks about their mother or sister. It was evident that it was just a fantasy and they needed to share it with someone else, not to get a reaction but just to hear themselves speak it out loud.
If you are worried about your brother, then have a confidential talk to him. If he is worried about his feelings, then suggest he sees his doctor, You could go with him. If the doctor is worried about your brother he will refer him to a psychologist.
Good luck x
2007-11-29 08:30:23 · answer #4 · answered by Giselle is Well 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that it is so wrong on so many levels you don't know where to begin. Warn him that his actions have consequences and there could be many in this situation. Give your mom enough credit to take care of herself, but warn your brother that he will really come out of this not only looking really stupid but also will have lost the respect of some of his family members as well.
2007-11-29 08:22:42 · answer #5 · answered by cheap advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he is still quite young ut he should be maturing a little at 12, and to say a comment like that about your own mom is pretty sick!
i think your brother needs mental help! sorry but thats the truth.
is she his real mom by blood? eiiw
2007-11-29 08:28:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to Freud, he would be experiencing the Oedipus complex, where young boys have feelings of love for their mother and hate for their father. It usually happens when children are younger than 12 though. I think he'll soon realize that it's extremely strange and grow out of it.
2007-11-29 08:22:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Arron, don't worry too much about it. Most young boys will fantasize over their mothers. I think it's called the Oedipus Complex, pardon any spelling mistakes; where boys love their moms and girls love their dads. You'll have to look that up.
I believe that Sigmund Freud wrote about it. Like I said, you'll have to do your own research or talk to your mom about it. I am sure she will know what to do.
2007-11-29 08:25:02 · answer #8 · answered by Rix T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he doesn't understand these feelings either and is reaching out for help. Maybe he told you so that you would straighten him out. I think he might have been joking. If you tell your mom this..I might put those thoughts in their heads forever and cause a real problem I think you should go to your dad about it...if he 's not joking.
2007-11-29 08:36:31 · answer #9 · answered by Deenie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he your biological brother? Is your mother his biological mother?
It's not abnormal to be attracted to such a strong figure like one's mother. Nor is it necessarily bad to admit it. If his infatuation becomes an obsession, or he seems intent on acting upon these feelings, he should get some counseling.
2007-11-29 08:22:43 · answer #10 · answered by fishinginmontana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your DAD to talk to him, or, if a Dad is not available in the home, get a pastor to talk to him, or a school psychologist......he could possibly grow out of this phase, but, sounds a little old for this type of thing....have heard of it in younger boys, but not a 12 year old. Let me guess.....there is not a DAD living in the home.....the biological dad, right?
2007-11-29 08:21:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋